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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 486863" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>DF - </p><p>Feel free to tell me to get lost on this one, but...</p><p></p><p>There's a teeny-tiny bit of wiggle room here, and if you give "one inch", difficult child can probably "hang herself" right in front of BT's eyes. Which might be the most effective option...</p><p></p><p>Two parts to it.</p><p></p><p>1) College... well, she's got two years to go. If she can meet the following criteria (your list, things like maintaining a B average in HS, medications compliant, etc.), you are prepared to consider some level of support for college. You and I both know what the chances are of meeting criteria, but... to the BT, you've "left the door open". </p><p></p><p>2) Job... it doesn't matter HOW good you make it for her, she will not succeed at the job. You know that. BT doesn't. SO... short term pain here... agree to drive her to and from work... IF she can meet an on-going list of directly-connected criteria: medications compliant, respectful when being driven to and from work, AND the $$ earned are either under your control or BT's control - e.g. not spent on illegal/immoral/dangerous stuff.</p><p></p><p>difficult child isn't going to agree to ANY criteria. Good for BT to see that.</p><p>But... by giving a fraction of an inch... BT "might" catch on that there's reasons why you got to where you are...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 486863, member: 11791"] DF - Feel free to tell me to get lost on this one, but... There's a teeny-tiny bit of wiggle room here, and if you give "one inch", difficult child can probably "hang herself" right in front of BT's eyes. Which might be the most effective option... Two parts to it. 1) College... well, she's got two years to go. If she can meet the following criteria (your list, things like maintaining a B average in HS, medications compliant, etc.), you are prepared to consider some level of support for college. You and I both know what the chances are of meeting criteria, but... to the BT, you've "left the door open". 2) Job... it doesn't matter HOW good you make it for her, she will not succeed at the job. You know that. BT doesn't. SO... short term pain here... agree to drive her to and from work... IF she can meet an on-going list of directly-connected criteria: medications compliant, respectful when being driven to and from work, AND the $$ earned are either under your control or BT's control - e.g. not spent on illegal/immoral/dangerous stuff. difficult child isn't going to agree to ANY criteria. Good for BT to see that. But... by giving a fraction of an inch... BT "might" catch on that there's reasons why you got to where you are... [/QUOTE]
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