Can I refuse to have a particular staff member at my kid's IEP meetings? I feel the nurse at Tigger and Piglet's school is incompetent. We have had conflicts since my kids started at the school last year. I don't believe that she contributes anything to the team. She lacks an understanding of pmeds, she just reads from the patient pamphlets without any regard to how being bipolar and cocaine-exposed impacts that. She clearly has no respect for my rights as a parent (Tigger's 1:1 aide asked her to call me before "treating" him and she refused). My children have direct orders NEVER to go see her. That if they don't feel well, they need to use one of their "call home" passes to call me and I'll come and check on them. Tigger's aide privately agrees with me and agreed to never take him to her, but to call me instead. I don't feel I can ask the aide to get involved (other than by protecting Tigger) because she is a year-to-year hire and contracts aren't out yet for next year. And I really want her back next year!! Do I have to tolerate her existence at our IEP and FBA meetings? Or can I get her banned?