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Can I trust her when she says she wants to change?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 673619" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>While my son who came here at six was ALWAYS aware of his culture and proud of it and duplicated it with his wife and learned to speak Mandarin, my daughter from a different Asian country is less than zero interested in her country of origin. If Koreans talk to her and are surprised how well she speaks English, and it does happen, she says, "I'm American." I have tried to get culturally realevant clothing and toys for her daughter, who is half white, but looks 100% Asian and IS part Asian, she thanks me, but does not push it with her daughter at all. She also went to culture camp and enjoyed it, but did not continue to learn more about her culture. I think each child is different. I have two kids who are partly black (one is 100% black) and Sonic, who has a high functioning form of autism, has again little to no interest in his culture evevn though he was offered exposure by his case manager. He politely told her "naw." My daughter Jumper makes jokes about it more than anything. She is aware of the black in her and hates racists and will interrupt and put in her two cents if anyone makes a racist comment about ANYONE be it black, hispanic, muslim, fill in the blanks. She won't tolerate THAT, but has had many chances to hang out with black kids and never has.</p><p></p><p>Both Princess and Jumper may develop more of an interest later, maybe after we are gone, although we have never tried to stop them from learning about their cultures or even contacting their birthparents. Right now, all I know is that Jumper has had three white boyfriends and does not seem interested in the black boys who like her.</p><p></p><p>It's interesting that I did talk to a peer of Jumpers who was adopted from Korea. She is VERY interested in her heritage, is shy at being different, and can't wait to visit. Although she is definitely a good kid, and Jumper is her friend, and she is also very smart and in college, and s he loves her family, she suffers from depression and is on medication.</p><p></p><p>It is interesting the difference in all people, not just adoptees. All are different. Jumper seems to have a very high level of being able to cope with anything as does Sonic, autism and all.Princess is more sensitive, but has overcome a drug addiction so she is strong. All three have, at one time or another, had sadness about being adopted. Princess said, "It's the rejection. Why didn't she want me?" I get it!</p><p></p><p>Again, I truly think genetics plays a bigger part in our lives and our abilities to cope with adversity than anything else, but, well, that's JMO <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 673619, member: 1550"] While my son who came here at six was ALWAYS aware of his culture and proud of it and duplicated it with his wife and learned to speak Mandarin, my daughter from a different Asian country is less than zero interested in her country of origin. If Koreans talk to her and are surprised how well she speaks English, and it does happen, she says, "I'm American." I have tried to get culturally realevant clothing and toys for her daughter, who is half white, but looks 100% Asian and IS part Asian, she thanks me, but does not push it with her daughter at all. She also went to culture camp and enjoyed it, but did not continue to learn more about her culture. I think each child is different. I have two kids who are partly black (one is 100% black) and Sonic, who has a high functioning form of autism, has again little to no interest in his culture evevn though he was offered exposure by his case manager. He politely told her "naw." My daughter Jumper makes jokes about it more than anything. She is aware of the black in her and hates racists and will interrupt and put in her two cents if anyone makes a racist comment about ANYONE be it black, hispanic, muslim, fill in the blanks. She won't tolerate THAT, but has had many chances to hang out with black kids and never has. Both Princess and Jumper may develop more of an interest later, maybe after we are gone, although we have never tried to stop them from learning about their cultures or even contacting their birthparents. Right now, all I know is that Jumper has had three white boyfriends and does not seem interested in the black boys who like her. It's interesting that I did talk to a peer of Jumpers who was adopted from Korea. She is VERY interested in her heritage, is shy at being different, and can't wait to visit. Although she is definitely a good kid, and Jumper is her friend, and she is also very smart and in college, and s he loves her family, she suffers from depression and is on medication. It is interesting the difference in all people, not just adoptees. All are different. Jumper seems to have a very high level of being able to cope with anything as does Sonic, autism and all.Princess is more sensitive, but has overcome a drug addiction so she is strong. All three have, at one time or another, had sadness about being adopted. Princess said, "It's the rejection. Why didn't she want me?" I get it! Again, I truly think genetics plays a bigger part in our lives and our abilities to cope with adversity than anything else, but, well, that's JMO ;) [/QUOTE]
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