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Can I trust her when she says she wants to change?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 673715" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I think people WANT to minimize genetics, even when their children are acting like perhaps a difficult father that we are no longer with, but whom we made a child with...or with adoption, when we know the bio. history is not good. It is not a given that the child will become difficult. Jumper is not and her birthfather is a mess and she is nothing like him. I met both of her birthparents. Her birthfather would probably feel strange if he knew she was going into law enforcement since his own experience with law enforcement has been prison and jail. He is a drug addict.She uses nothing. But her birth mother is sweet and sensible so that helps. Sonic had a drug addict birth mother who I swear must be sweeter than pie beneath her poverty and addiction because he is and he also does not use. But I'm sure he inherited his sweet nature from one of his bio. parents...their drug use is not their true nature.</p><p>I think genetics will trump environment almost every time. People, like me, with difficult DNA have to work harder in life. I have to be mindful not to be my parents and even siblings. DNA is very powerful. In my adoption group parents are always talking about how ironic it is that our children are more like their birthparents than us (after they meet them). Some say they even have similar mannerisms and speech patterns.And they did NOT know them growing up.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 673715, member: 1550"] I think people WANT to minimize genetics, even when their children are acting like perhaps a difficult father that we are no longer with, but whom we made a child with...or with adoption, when we know the bio. history is not good. It is not a given that the child will become difficult. Jumper is not and her birthfather is a mess and she is nothing like him. I met both of her birthparents. Her birthfather would probably feel strange if he knew she was going into law enforcement since his own experience with law enforcement has been prison and jail. He is a drug addict.She uses nothing. But her birth mother is sweet and sensible so that helps. Sonic had a drug addict birth mother who I swear must be sweeter than pie beneath her poverty and addiction because he is and he also does not use. But I'm sure he inherited his sweet nature from one of his bio. parents...their drug use is not their true nature. I think genetics will trump environment almost every time. People, like me, with difficult DNA have to work harder in life. I have to be mindful not to be my parents and even siblings. DNA is very powerful. In my adoption group parents are always talking about how ironic it is that our children are more like their birthparents than us (after they meet them). Some say they even have similar mannerisms and speech patterns.And they did NOT know them growing up. [/QUOTE]
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