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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 275366" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">Mine are now 19 and 21 and I have gone to school and worked full time since they were 3 and 5. It was VERY difficult at times to constantly keep things in balance. And for the earlier years I did it alone, as H wasn't fully in the picture yet. </span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">I know that despite the difficulties in my life at the time I was fortunate enough to have a job where some flexibility was tolerated and that helped me a lot. Also, I think I failed in some ways as being a more understanding parent at times simply because I was so stressed out for time challenged. I probably should not have been so serious at times. I'm still like that now when I'm stressed (no time to just kick back and have fun, live in the moment).</span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">It was easier to keep things organized when my girls were little - we were all on a very tight schedule during the week. The weekends were our down times and I tried to keep them as stress free and fun as possible. I think I did okay. </span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">Making lunches the night before definitely helped. Pre-paying for a school lunch helped more. Haha.</span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">Choosing their clothing the night before was a challenge as they never wanted to wear what they chose the night before. Mornings were difficult, but I had to be on the city bus by 6:55 AM after dropping them at daycare, so we were up early and they usually had their breakfast at daycare, which I bought and supplied to the daycare ahead of time. On weekends, before bed, I would put the cereal, two bowls and two spoons on the table. easy child would make them cereals in the morning - by then they were 4 and 6 - so I could get an extra hour of sleep while they watched tv. For dinners I tried to plan a loose menu and the dinners were usually very simple during the week - 30 minutes or less and we were done eating by 6:30PM. Baths at 7:30, bed by 8PM. Like I said, it wasn't easy, but it was necessary. On Tuesday evenings, we ate out pizza at a little place by our apt and the girls would be thrilled to eat out once a week (it was so cheap then - only $13 for the three of us). It was our fun night during the week. We got to be silly, stop by the park and check out the ducks, maybe ride bikes around our complex. On the weekends, we were much more laid back and didn't follow any real schedules. </span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">If I ask easy child, she will tell me that she doesn't remember much of her childhood, but she does think she was happy and content and well cared for. If I ask difficult child, her perception was/is totally different. I think I did my best. </span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">You are doing your best. Just ask yourself that question and I bet you will find that you're doing your best. Remember to let go once in a while, get silly and laugh with them. All they really want is our attention and for it be fun once in a while. Hugs~</span></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 275366, member: 2211"] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]Mine are now 19 and 21 and I have gone to school and worked full time since they were 3 and 5. It was VERY difficult at times to constantly keep things in balance. And for the earlier years I did it alone, as H wasn't fully in the picture yet. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]I know that despite the difficulties in my life at the time I was fortunate enough to have a job where some flexibility was tolerated and that helped me a lot. Also, I think I failed in some ways as being a more understanding parent at times simply because I was so stressed out for time challenged. I probably should not have been so serious at times. I'm still like that now when I'm stressed (no time to just kick back and have fun, live in the moment).[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]It was easier to keep things organized when my girls were little - we were all on a very tight schedule during the week. The weekends were our down times and I tried to keep them as stress free and fun as possible. I think I did okay. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]Making lunches the night before definitely helped. Pre-paying for a school lunch helped more. Haha.[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]Choosing their clothing the night before was a challenge as they never wanted to wear what they chose the night before. Mornings were difficult, but I had to be on the city bus by 6:55 AM after dropping them at daycare, so we were up early and they usually had their breakfast at daycare, which I bought and supplied to the daycare ahead of time. On weekends, before bed, I would put the cereal, two bowls and two spoons on the table. easy child would make them cereals in the morning - by then they were 4 and 6 - so I could get an extra hour of sleep while they watched tv. For dinners I tried to plan a loose menu and the dinners were usually very simple during the week - 30 minutes or less and we were done eating by 6:30PM. Baths at 7:30, bed by 8PM. Like I said, it wasn't easy, but it was necessary. On Tuesday evenings, we ate out pizza at a little place by our apt and the girls would be thrilled to eat out once a week (it was so cheap then - only $13 for the three of us). It was our fun night during the week. We got to be silly, stop by the park and check out the ducks, maybe ride bikes around our complex. On the weekends, we were much more laid back and didn't follow any real schedules. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]If I ask easy child, she will tell me that she doesn't remember much of her childhood, but she does think she was happy and content and well cared for. If I ask difficult child, her perception was/is totally different. I think I did my best. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]You are doing your best. Just ask yourself that question and I bet you will find that you're doing your best. Remember to let go once in a while, get silly and laugh with them. All they really want is our attention and for it be fun once in a while. Hugs~[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [/QUOTE]
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