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Can someone explain me more about Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) & therapies for it
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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 551032" data-attributes="member: 393"><p>OMG, you opened a can of worms with this thread. There are definitely questionable treatments for the truly attachment disordered child, and in many states those treatments have been outlawed because they are abusive, sometimes life threatening. There are "underground" treatments offered by some therapists.</p><p></p><p>Saying the above, the generally accepted Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) therapies that I've utilized have been about control in many ways but not punitive in any way. </p><p></p><p>The attachment disordered child is all about control. That child will control any situation in every way possible. Positive, negative, loving, hateful, aggressive & passive. You never know what to expect of this child. The attachment disordered child will do anything to push away a caregiver before that caregiver hurts or abandons him/her. The child must give up the level of control they used to survive yet must be given control in other areas of their lives.</p><p></p><p>My husband & I used reparenting. We rocked, bottle-fed, used nooks, made beds as crib like as possible, played with blocks on the floor, even fed the tweedles. All this at the ages of 6 through 9 years of age. We cont'd on with nurturing and choices. We gave the tweedles choices we could live with while giving the sense of control they sorely needed due to their Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). It's an incredible balancing act. </p><p></p><p>Parents of attachment disordered children become desperate. The level of chaos brings a parent to their knees on a daily basis. You become conditioned to chaos while doing your darnedest to bring structure into the mix.</p><p></p><p>Parenting an attachment disordered child is not for the faint of heart. It a roller coaster ride of emotions that a parent likely has never felt before. It's the continual trial of parenting a child who essentially refuses to be parented.</p><p></p><p>I hope this answers some of your questions.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 551032, member: 393"] OMG, you opened a can of worms with this thread. There are definitely questionable treatments for the truly attachment disordered child, and in many states those treatments have been outlawed because they are abusive, sometimes life threatening. There are "underground" treatments offered by some therapists. Saying the above, the generally accepted Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) therapies that I've utilized have been about control in many ways but not punitive in any way. The attachment disordered child is all about control. That child will control any situation in every way possible. Positive, negative, loving, hateful, aggressive & passive. You never know what to expect of this child. The attachment disordered child will do anything to push away a caregiver before that caregiver hurts or abandons him/her. The child must give up the level of control they used to survive yet must be given control in other areas of their lives. My husband & I used reparenting. We rocked, bottle-fed, used nooks, made beds as crib like as possible, played with blocks on the floor, even fed the tweedles. All this at the ages of 6 through 9 years of age. We cont'd on with nurturing and choices. We gave the tweedles choices we could live with while giving the sense of control they sorely needed due to their Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). It's an incredible balancing act. Parents of attachment disordered children become desperate. The level of chaos brings a parent to their knees on a daily basis. You become conditioned to chaos while doing your darnedest to bring structure into the mix. Parenting an attachment disordered child is not for the faint of heart. It a roller coaster ride of emotions that a parent likely has never felt before. It's the continual trial of parenting a child who essentially refuses to be parented. I hope this answers some of your questions. [/QUOTE]
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