This may be little sensitive topic and I really don't want to offend, but I'm bit confused. I have noticed term Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) and attachment disorder used here in the way I'm not familiar to. I'm basically only familiar with ICD-10 and DSM-IV definitions. I'm also very familiar with attachment theory and attachment parenting (in the way meant by those who are big believers in William Sears.) I followed those principals especially with my easy child and at the time I was very sure it was The Way to go. Later I have reconsidered and now think it is an excellent way to go, but not the only possible nor always the best for every family way. However I did enjoy it and I think it gave my easy child a very good start for life. However I have followed some links provided here that have had some very confusing information about Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) for me. Diagnostic criteria that has nothing to do with ICD or DSM, lists which basically provide every possible disturbing thing kid can do and name it a Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). Okay, I understand the need to talk about kids who have very disturbed behaviours and I understand their parents have to be worried silly, but same time some pages I found following those links seem to provide rather odd or even disturbing quick fixes. Much less there was talk about therapies and approaches I'm familiar with kids with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) like theraplay, sensitive parenting etc. that have been working wonders with some kids with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) in my extended family (older, institutionalised adopted kids from Russia and younger one from China.) Some of the parenting/therapy methods in this Attachment Therapy I read about I found frankly disturbing and abusive. I read more about the matter last spring but didn't want to ask here because I feared it could be offensive and almost forgot the matter. But there is local, very recent, absolutely disgusting court case about the torture murder of the young child. Child was killed by her parents in horrible way after several weeks torture after child was reunited with them after CPS involvement. Mother had set up very Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)-like symptoms (not the ICD/DSM variety Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) but this other Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)) like cutting and destroying clothes, peeing and pooping inappropriately etc. Child didn't do any of those behaviours while under CPS care and police believes they were done by mother also at home. Mother falsely claimed to be health professional who had experience of caring of disturbed children and she claimed the tortures methods they used were therapeutic parenting. This is huge fail for our CPS and hopefully will change some of our extremely bio-parent friendly procedures, but when I read the details from papers I found it very disturbing how much the methods used in torturing this child reminded those I read from Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) pages. Many here write about Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) and while I certainly don't believe you would be using those extreme and even abusive methods with your kids, I would like to know what exactly is meant with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). And how common/rare are these very heavy handed methods talked about in some of the Attachment Therapy/therapeutic parenting pages?