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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 542451" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Witzhand, oh, I'm fine with your post...lol. But of course I'm angry because of Little S. As far as what I an do, there is nothing I can do or have done. Sportsfan calls me. I don't usually call him because he is going through a lot and it's up to him when he needs to vent. My son is NOT upset that his father and I are involved in his struggle. In fact, often he gets angry and thinks we should get MORE involved, such as go down there, RIGHT NOW! Of course that is irrational and not possible because he chose to move away. But he is an adult child who wants and requires a lot of emotional support yet he is very shy socially so he doesn't have a support system in place in Missouri. So you are two different people, and I treat him as he is. BUT...it is not possible to be there for him. I can go down there a few times a year, but that's all. </p><p></p><p>My son knows how hard it is to get custody if you are a male in Missouri and he doesn't expect it. But we do both expect X to implode because of the way she is. It may take a while, but it will happen. Either that or she will have to scale back on her behavior...maybe the new honey will get tired of her. It has only been a few months. She isn't even divorced yet. IF she is alone perhaps she will revert to the sensible mother she used to be. I don't believe it is good for kids to see their newly separated parents sleeping with other people nor do I feel it is good parenting to keep a child up half the night to attend a party. I won't change my mind about that either, but unless Sportsfan's father has a change of heart, there is no way he can afford a PI. </p><p></p><p>I do think the laws are not in the best interests of the child. I believe they are in the best interests of the runaround parents who don't want to really be parents anymore and want the option of going back to their teen years and taking their bewildered children with them. But I'm not an active participant in this battle. It is what it is and I wanted and needed to vent. If S. ever asks me to back off, I will. But he isn't so far.</p><p></p><p>And, yes, I am angry...mostly at the system.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 542451, member: 1550"] Witzhand, oh, I'm fine with your post...lol. But of course I'm angry because of Little S. As far as what I an do, there is nothing I can do or have done. Sportsfan calls me. I don't usually call him because he is going through a lot and it's up to him when he needs to vent. My son is NOT upset that his father and I are involved in his struggle. In fact, often he gets angry and thinks we should get MORE involved, such as go down there, RIGHT NOW! Of course that is irrational and not possible because he chose to move away. But he is an adult child who wants and requires a lot of emotional support yet he is very shy socially so he doesn't have a support system in place in Missouri. So you are two different people, and I treat him as he is. BUT...it is not possible to be there for him. I can go down there a few times a year, but that's all. My son knows how hard it is to get custody if you are a male in Missouri and he doesn't expect it. But we do both expect X to implode because of the way she is. It may take a while, but it will happen. Either that or she will have to scale back on her behavior...maybe the new honey will get tired of her. It has only been a few months. She isn't even divorced yet. IF she is alone perhaps she will revert to the sensible mother she used to be. I don't believe it is good for kids to see their newly separated parents sleeping with other people nor do I feel it is good parenting to keep a child up half the night to attend a party. I won't change my mind about that either, but unless Sportsfan's father has a change of heart, there is no way he can afford a PI. I do think the laws are not in the best interests of the child. I believe they are in the best interests of the runaround parents who don't want to really be parents anymore and want the option of going back to their teen years and taking their bewildered children with them. But I'm not an active participant in this battle. It is what it is and I wanted and needed to vent. If S. ever asks me to back off, I will. But he isn't so far. And, yes, I am angry...mostly at the system. [/QUOTE]
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