I have no idea if anyone is even interested in this topic, but I think about it a lot these days because my son is going through his divorce and X is not in any way behaving like the mother she used to be. Yet because she is the woman, she gets physical custody and also son would like to go to court about some of her behaviors, but his lawyer, once of the biggest in Missouri, tell him that if nothing can be proven, she can do what she likes. He would have to hire a P.I. (this idea is on the table) to get any judge to pay attention to his concerns in Missouri. To them, the "best interests of the child" are really "what the mother wants" and "making sure both parents see the child." Even if the parent is horrible, it is still in the best interests of the child to see the parent, sometimes more often than the stable parent. X is running around with her boyfriend, taking Little S. to drinking parties and keeping him up until the wee hours of the morning. Today Son met Little S. at a gas station, which is where X wanted to drop him off. She looked hung over. Little S. was tired and dressed in wrinkled clothes. X takes Little S. out late almost every night she has him. Son is starting to wonder if X is using drugs, but, of course, he can't possibly know. He does know that X is much more into her new honey than into her son. She just left home on Monday and he got to see her behavior for a few months before she left. They aren't divorced yet. Wouldn't the best interests of the child be staying most of the time with the more stable parent? The one most interested in giving him a consistent, loving home? Unless Mom is arrested, however, that doesn't happen, does it? Son can't afford a long, drawn out custody battle and it's possible he wouldn't win anyway. Son and the rest of our family are waiting for X to finally implode. She is acting very erratic and unlike her old self so something has definitely changed for the worse. But we are worried t hat Little S. may be caught in the crossfire of whatever happens. I think in the old days they had better divorce laws, such as actually not smiling upon allowing new boyfriends to stay overnight while the kids were there. Now you can pretty much do whatever you want to do, and the child has to deal with it...unless you have $$$ for an endless battle. Live-ins are the #1 perpetrators of child sexual abuse. Sometimes the woman or man barely knows the new live-in. X met this winner on a dating website... Just a vent. Thanks for reading.