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Can we now talk about boundaries in relation to the word "NO?"
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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 627693" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>That anger, and your refusing to let it go, is the energy you are using to change, MWM. You are not letting yourself down, this time. You are burning through those old "Thou Shalt Nots". Journal through it, post it here, scream into a pillow over it ~ whatever you need to do, but don't let go of it, MWM. </p><p></p><p>You are reclaiming your power. <em>Who cares if it isn't easy, MWM</em>? <em>You've been through a thousand times worse without batting an eye.</em> There are no words that can take away the pain, that can change what you are determined to do. How your sister reacts is not and never was, something you could control. But you can know that once this part is over, you will be stronger, better prepared, less afraid, more centered, in every area of your life. Not just in your relationship with your sister MWM, but in every area of your life, you will be more here, more present, more centered, more gloriously YOU.</p><p></p><p>Healing. That is what you are doing, MWM. You said it yourself. This is how your sister always treats you. She hasn't changed, but something is different, this time.</p><p></p><p>That would be you, MWM.</p><p></p><p>Getting healthier and healthier.</p><p></p><p>My take on all this is for you to do what I am doing. Read about locus of control, read about saying "no". Look up how to say "no" on YouTube, on TED talks. Read about it, talk about it, post about it, journal about it. </p><p></p><p>We are fortunate to have the site to work through this material together.</p><p></p><p>This is so good for us, MWM.</p><p></p><p>What do you say about your sister? Just like husband told me: "I told you what I expect." </p><p></p><p>That anger isn't even about your sister, MWM. That is why you can't let go of it. That anger is at everyone, at yourself, at the hurt that made it impossible for you to cherish yourself legitimately.</p><p></p><p>It isn't always easy to see how hurtful our lives have been. But it is best to see, best to know, best to admit what it is, and to change.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Me too, MWM. I think we are getting healthier.</p><p></p><p>Wondering about that concept of boundaries means that we are establishing boundaries of our own. We are in the change process now, MWM. I don't think it can just be stopped. Once we begin to see differently, I don't think it is possible for us to go back to the old ways of seeing. </p><p></p><p>Cedar</p><p></p><p>I am way proud and happy for you, MWM.</p><p></p><p>For me, too.</p><p> </p><p>Getting through to the other side of this will be the same, but on a different level, than changing your relationship to 36.</p><p></p><p>We are doing really well, MWM.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 627693, member: 17461"] That anger, and your refusing to let it go, is the energy you are using to change, MWM. You are not letting yourself down, this time. You are burning through those old "Thou Shalt Nots". Journal through it, post it here, scream into a pillow over it ~ whatever you need to do, but don't let go of it, MWM. You are reclaiming your power. [I]Who cares if it isn't easy, MWM[/I]? [I]You've been through a thousand times worse without batting an eye.[/I] There are no words that can take away the pain, that can change what you are determined to do. How your sister reacts is not and never was, something you could control. But you can know that once this part is over, you will be stronger, better prepared, less afraid, more centered, in every area of your life. Not just in your relationship with your sister MWM, but in every area of your life, you will be more here, more present, more centered, more gloriously YOU. Healing. That is what you are doing, MWM. You said it yourself. This is how your sister always treats you. She hasn't changed, but something is different, this time. That would be you, MWM. Getting healthier and healthier. My take on all this is for you to do what I am doing. Read about locus of control, read about saying "no". Look up how to say "no" on YouTube, on TED talks. Read about it, talk about it, post about it, journal about it. We are fortunate to have the site to work through this material together. This is so good for us, MWM. What do you say about your sister? Just like husband told me: "I told you what I expect." That anger isn't even about your sister, MWM. That is why you can't let go of it. That anger is at everyone, at yourself, at the hurt that made it impossible for you to cherish yourself legitimately. It isn't always easy to see how hurtful our lives have been. But it is best to see, best to know, best to admit what it is, and to change. Me too, MWM. I think we are getting healthier. Wondering about that concept of boundaries means that we are establishing boundaries of our own. We are in the change process now, MWM. I don't think it can just be stopped. Once we begin to see differently, I don't think it is possible for us to go back to the old ways of seeing. Cedar I am way proud and happy for you, MWM. For me, too. Getting through to the other side of this will be the same, but on a different level, than changing your relationship to 36. We are doing really well, MWM. [/QUOTE]
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