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Can you give them freedom when you don't trust them?
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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 318742" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>My guidelines aren't by age for my kids. My judgements for both kids are based on maturity, safety, trustworthiness, a ton of factors. Even in my own home, things are different between easy child and difficult child. WHen difficult child was 10, he would go to and from school on his own. He was hyper aware of traffic, other people walking, safety etc. In spite of being a difficult child, this was one thing I had absolute trust in him with. easy child is now 10. She is trustworthy to go to and from school without delay. However she isn't aware. She is a daydreamer. Crossing a major road, no sidewalks from here to school either, no crossing gaurd? I can't allow it so I still walk with her. </p><p></p><p>Go with your gut is always my theory. If in doubt, question is it really the child or is it a desire to not have your kids grow up faster than you want them to. When it feels in the gut like it is a problematic situation, go with that gut! We ignore our guts far too often. I think you sound level headed in reasons for decision making. Stand firm when you feel you should <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 318742, member: 4264"] My guidelines aren't by age for my kids. My judgements for both kids are based on maturity, safety, trustworthiness, a ton of factors. Even in my own home, things are different between easy child and difficult child. WHen difficult child was 10, he would go to and from school on his own. He was hyper aware of traffic, other people walking, safety etc. In spite of being a difficult child, this was one thing I had absolute trust in him with. easy child is now 10. She is trustworthy to go to and from school without delay. However she isn't aware. She is a daydreamer. Crossing a major road, no sidewalks from here to school either, no crossing gaurd? I can't allow it so I still walk with her. Go with your gut is always my theory. If in doubt, question is it really the child or is it a desire to not have your kids grow up faster than you want them to. When it feels in the gut like it is a problematic situation, go with that gut! We ignore our guts far too often. I think you sound level headed in reasons for decision making. Stand firm when you feel you should :) [/QUOTE]
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