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<blockquote data-quote="AppleCori" data-source="post: 647852" data-attributes="member: 16024"><p>Welcome, ST, glad you found us.</p><p></p><p>There is a lot of wisdom on this board, born from painful experience.</p><p></p><p>Thanks to the wise advise on this board, many of us have learned how to take control of OUR lives back from our dysfunctional adult children...and learned to let them control their own lives.</p><p></p><p>Even if we don't agree with their choices.</p><p></p><p>We have come to understand that we can only control one life--our own--and we owe it to ourselves and our loved ones to take care of US first.</p><p></p><p>ST, you have raised your children.</p><p></p><p>You did the best you could. You have two great adult kids who can take care of their own lives.</p><p></p><p>It's time to let your other daughter take care of her life.</p><p></p><p>Even if you don't agree with her choices.</p><p></p><p>She will never learn to do things for herself if she can rely on you for everything. She is almost 40. Time to let go.</p><p></p><p>You deserve to live in peace and happiness.</p><p></p><p>ST, is your ret<em>irement on track?</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>My brother is going on 50yo and has allowed his dysfunctional adult kids to bleed him dry. He and his wife live in an old RV, have one broken down car, and lots of debts they cant pay. They use to have a house on acreage, savings, all the normal things, but they kept bailing their grown kids out of their self-inflicted problems until they went broke. They moved 1000 miles away to get away from the chaos. Now we learn that their oldest daughter is soon to have baby number four </em>(her oldest is 7). But at least they now realize that they cant fix everything. At least I hope they have.</p><p><em></em></p><p><em>Don't let that be you. </em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>ST, let your daughter and her hubby take care of themselves. If the don't have food, let them go to food pantries. If they can't pay their rent, let them suffer the consequences. Don't suffer the consequences for them. They won't learn anything if you do it for them. They haven't learned by having you bail them out. </em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>Don't keep doing the same things and expecting different results. </em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>We are here for you as you start on your new path. There will be a learning curve, but you will get stronger as you go.</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>Hugs</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em></em></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AppleCori, post: 647852, member: 16024"] Welcome, ST, glad you found us. There is a lot of wisdom on this board, born from painful experience. Thanks to the wise advise on this board, many of us have learned how to take control of OUR lives back from our dysfunctional adult children...and learned to let them control their own lives. Even if we don't agree with their choices. We have come to understand that we can only control one life--our own--and we owe it to ourselves and our loved ones to take care of US first. ST, you have raised your children. You did the best you could. You have two great adult kids who can take care of their own lives. It's time to let your other daughter take care of her life. Even if you don't agree with her choices. She will never learn to do things for herself if she can rely on you for everything. She is almost 40. Time to let go. You deserve to live in peace and happiness. ST, is your ret[I]irement on track? My brother is going on 50yo and has allowed his dysfunctional adult kids to bleed him dry. He and his wife live in an old RV, have one broken down car, and lots of debts they cant pay. They use to have a house on acreage, savings, all the normal things, but they kept bailing their grown kids out of their self-inflicted problems until they went broke. They moved 1000 miles away to get away from the chaos. Now we learn that their oldest daughter is soon to have baby number four [/I](her oldest is 7). But at least they now realize that they cant fix everything. At least I hope they have. [I] Don't let that be you. ST, let your daughter and her hubby take care of themselves. If the don't have food, let them go to food pantries. If they can't pay their rent, let them suffer the consequences. Don't suffer the consequences for them. They won't learn anything if you do it for them. They haven't learned by having you bail them out. Don't keep doing the same things and expecting different results. We are here for you as you start on your new path. There will be a learning curve, but you will get stronger as you go. Hugs [/I] [/QUOTE]
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