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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 157722" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>WyntersGrace, </p><p></p><p>This is the same advice I posted to Dancer Mom but it fits - condensed to say </p><p></p><p>The #1 "get over" difficult child had on us (me and DF) was that he constantly caught us off guard. We were trying to do parenting on the fly and make it up as we went, mostly because...he was so minute to minute in GFGdom. </p><p></p><p>WHATEVER you decide to do this time - my suggestions are as follows because they helped us with Dude. </p><p></p><p>1.) HE has lied to you. BIG NO NO</p><p>2.) HE needs a consequence - whatever you decide or you and he can decide together, but it would NOT include having access to a vehicle. I would drive him. </p><p>3) From NOW on - the rule about going out, being where you say you are going to be and coming home on time IS IN STONE and REPEATED each and every time he heads out - EVERY TIME. To the point where he mockingly repeats it back to you. That's progress</p><p>4.) Walking never killed anyone. </p><p>5.) Before he goes out, THE RULES are repeated to him. THe consequence is repeated to him, and the consequence CHANGES if he has 2 strikes in the same quarter. 2 strikes in 3 months? Consequence DOUBLES. something like that. </p><p></p><p>Hugs- </p><p>Maybe you should sit in the dark and then scare the bejeebers out of him. </p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/tongue.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":tongue:" title="tongue :tongue:" data-shortname=":tongue:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 157722, member: 4964"] WyntersGrace, This is the same advice I posted to Dancer Mom but it fits - condensed to say The #1 "get over" difficult child had on us (me and DF) was that he constantly caught us off guard. We were trying to do parenting on the fly and make it up as we went, mostly because...he was so minute to minute in GFGdom. WHATEVER you decide to do this time - my suggestions are as follows because they helped us with Dude. 1.) HE has lied to you. BIG NO NO 2.) HE needs a consequence - whatever you decide or you and he can decide together, but it would NOT include having access to a vehicle. I would drive him. 3) From NOW on - the rule about going out, being where you say you are going to be and coming home on time IS IN STONE and REPEATED each and every time he heads out - EVERY TIME. To the point where he mockingly repeats it back to you. That's progress 4.) Walking never killed anyone. 5.) Before he goes out, THE RULES are repeated to him. THe consequence is repeated to him, and the consequence CHANGES if he has 2 strikes in the same quarter. 2 strikes in 3 months? Consequence DOUBLES. something like that. Hugs- Maybe you should sit in the dark and then scare the bejeebers out of him. :raspberry-tounge: [/QUOTE]
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