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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 696505" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>It might help if you reframe your mental thoughts and processes about staying in touch, giving birthday presents, etc.</p><p></p><p>You are not doing this for HIM. You are doing it for YOU. So YOU can look yourself in the mirror and feel OK. It's about you, not him. If he doesn't want to reciprocate, that's his problem. You will do as much as makes YOU feel good about whatever you are doing. You will not be guilted into doing more than that.</p><p></p><p>Staying in touch even minimally can pay off later. If you don't actually cut them off, they can't blame you for that later, and it can leave a door open for a future relationship. (Having said that, sometimes they are so abusive that we have no choice but to cut them off)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 696505, member: 11791"] It might help if you reframe your mental thoughts and processes about staying in touch, giving birthday presents, etc. You are not doing this for HIM. You are doing it for YOU. So YOU can look yourself in the mirror and feel OK. It's about you, not him. If he doesn't want to reciprocate, that's his problem. You will do as much as makes YOU feel good about whatever you are doing. You will not be guilted into doing more than that. Staying in touch even minimally can pay off later. If you don't actually cut them off, they can't blame you for that later, and it can leave a door open for a future relationship. (Having said that, sometimes they are so abusive that we have no choice but to cut them off) [/QUOTE]
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