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<blockquote data-quote="Big Bad Kitty" data-source="post: 90639" data-attributes="member: 3647"><p>I felt like you not so long ago, and still some days I do.</p><p></p><p>Little changes help, in little ways. Unfortunately, nothing makes it stop all the way.</p><p></p><p>First, do what you can do accept that this is your child. It sounds so basic, and we probably all think we do, but really think about it. If our child had diabetes, and we had to do their insulin every day, we would eventually accept that as a part of life with the child. Our children are holy terrors. Unpredictable ones at that. And once we own that. it is a little easier to face each day.</p><p></p><p>OK. Try this. Do not yell. Ever. No raising your voice for any reason. In fact, if difficult child starts to scream, talk softer. Whisper, even. At some point, difficult child will realize that you are talking, and that she cannot hear you. Then she will quiet down so that she can. When this becomes a habit (and miracle of miracles, it did in my house, and I have the biggest mouth this side of the Mississippi) the kids will slowly follow suit, because they do as they see.</p><p></p><p>Come up with a swift consequence that you can administer when she disobeys. Removal of a toy, or something along those lines. Have a sit down with her and let her know, this is the new rule. If mommy says do ABC, you do not say no, you do ABC. If you do not do ABC, you will lose X, Y, or Z for a day. </p><p></p><p>When the time comes for her to do something, be clear and concise. "Please put your dish in the sink and your napkin in the trash". If she does, praise her, if not, then without saying a word, take something away. If she begins a meltdown, walk away. Take easy child with you. Let her have her meltdown without and audience.</p><p></p><p>These are simply suggestions that are working for me right now. Do them, don't do them, change them up, arrange them to suit your needs, whatever you like. But little changes can make an amazing difference. </p><p></p><p>Good luck to you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Big Bad Kitty, post: 90639, member: 3647"] I felt like you not so long ago, and still some days I do. Little changes help, in little ways. Unfortunately, nothing makes it stop all the way. First, do what you can do accept that this is your child. It sounds so basic, and we probably all think we do, but really think about it. If our child had diabetes, and we had to do their insulin every day, we would eventually accept that as a part of life with the child. Our children are holy terrors. Unpredictable ones at that. And once we own that. it is a little easier to face each day. OK. Try this. Do not yell. Ever. No raising your voice for any reason. In fact, if difficult child starts to scream, talk softer. Whisper, even. At some point, difficult child will realize that you are talking, and that she cannot hear you. Then she will quiet down so that she can. When this becomes a habit (and miracle of miracles, it did in my house, and I have the biggest mouth this side of the Mississippi) the kids will slowly follow suit, because they do as they see. Come up with a swift consequence that you can administer when she disobeys. Removal of a toy, or something along those lines. Have a sit down with her and let her know, this is the new rule. If mommy says do ABC, you do not say no, you do ABC. If you do not do ABC, you will lose X, Y, or Z for a day. When the time comes for her to do something, be clear and concise. "Please put your dish in the sink and your napkin in the trash". If she does, praise her, if not, then without saying a word, take something away. If she begins a meltdown, walk away. Take easy child with you. Let her have her meltdown without and audience. These are simply suggestions that are working for me right now. Do them, don't do them, change them up, arrange them to suit your needs, whatever you like. But little changes can make an amazing difference. Good luck to you. [/QUOTE]
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