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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 505668" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>He had the football game on, but it is not his big thing... I think he was more interested in who would win etc. He did want to know if any lady really had the name Madonna???? LOL then he ran to me to say who won.</p><p></p><p>Thanks for the cheers. He had some tricky moments a couple of times. Like he has notched up the level of screamming to try a more intimidating level... DONT YOU DARE TELL ME THAT OR I AM GONNA EXPLODE... I then say, well if you choose that it will not be fun for you. Why dont we try to solve the problem... usually then he screams that he does not want to solve the problem and that I am whatever... and I know this whole time he is just processing a way to get out of this with dignity so I stay quiet while he thinks. sometimes I have to say... if he is escalating... Ok that is it, I can't have an unsafe situation and then he (while screaming but thinking he is calming) yells, I AM calming down... I am using my tools, squeeze and relax and breathing etc.. I cue.... your voice does not sound calmer... I DONT CARE (and then it gets softer) .. Then he says ok, ok, lets solve it, I dont want any problems... what can I do... then we talk it out... it is rough but he is doing it. Feels like hours but it is usually at most ten minutes...but may rise and fall for a while.</p><p></p><p></p><p>But no physical stuff other than stomping his foot and making a fist (which he then tries to cover up as his squeeze and relax exercise, LOL)</p><p></p><p>Outside, none of the comments or nonsense stuff for these two days but there was not a big group of kids to try to socially navigate.</p><p></p><p>H & R, funny it sure does not feel logical sometimes but thank you for the compliment! ...but I suppose by the time I post here I have thought things out.... I do try but certainly have my reactionary moments... I am pretty ok with accepting and changing mistakes though so it helps. I wish my school team felt the same.</p><p></p><p>You are all so right, we both needed it so I can remember how things can be. Gives me motivation to continue to hard fight for him. </p><p></p><p>Love to you all... Dee</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 505668, member: 12886"] He had the football game on, but it is not his big thing... I think he was more interested in who would win etc. He did want to know if any lady really had the name Madonna???? LOL then he ran to me to say who won. Thanks for the cheers. He had some tricky moments a couple of times. Like he has notched up the level of screamming to try a more intimidating level... DONT YOU DARE TELL ME THAT OR I AM GONNA EXPLODE... I then say, well if you choose that it will not be fun for you. Why dont we try to solve the problem... usually then he screams that he does not want to solve the problem and that I am whatever... and I know this whole time he is just processing a way to get out of this with dignity so I stay quiet while he thinks. sometimes I have to say... if he is escalating... Ok that is it, I can't have an unsafe situation and then he (while screaming but thinking he is calming) yells, I AM calming down... I am using my tools, squeeze and relax and breathing etc.. I cue.... your voice does not sound calmer... I DONT CARE (and then it gets softer) .. Then he says ok, ok, lets solve it, I dont want any problems... what can I do... then we talk it out... it is rough but he is doing it. Feels like hours but it is usually at most ten minutes...but may rise and fall for a while. But no physical stuff other than stomping his foot and making a fist (which he then tries to cover up as his squeeze and relax exercise, LOL) Outside, none of the comments or nonsense stuff for these two days but there was not a big group of kids to try to socially navigate. H & R, funny it sure does not feel logical sometimes but thank you for the compliment! ...but I suppose by the time I post here I have thought things out.... I do try but certainly have my reactionary moments... I am pretty ok with accepting and changing mistakes though so it helps. I wish my school team felt the same. You are all so right, we both needed it so I can remember how things can be. Gives me motivation to continue to hard fight for him. Love to you all... Dee [/QUOTE]
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