Checking In with-update (very long)

Discussion in 'The Watercooler' started by Chava, Dec 4, 2007.

  1. Chava

    Chava New Member

    Hi Everyone,
    I'm sorry that I haven't posted in so long. My job has taken over my life for the meantime and I just don't get much leisure time on the computer. Kids are growing and starting to leave home, so I'm trying to spend all my free time with them, as much as they'll have me.

    Oldest moved out into a halfway house situation. She's doing very well right now, though the anorexia has reared it's head a bit. She's off all medications, which is probably why she can control her eating again. Gaining so much weight was very difficult for her. She looks great now, but we'll see if she can stop losing now. She has been working for about 6 months, and is hoping to start a course for Travel Agents in March. We meet with her therapist and the head of the program monthly, and they feel she's ready to move into a separate apartment as soon as they can find one for her and her roommate.

    difficult child 2 is now in an army preparation program and will be inducted into the army in July. He would like to join a very elite unit and will be tested for it sometime in March. In the meantime, he's enjoying the program and getting in shape. He comes home every 2 weeks and I see that he's much more appreciative of being home, which is very nice.

    easy child 1 is in 12th grade and suffering with the rest of the country since the high schools are on strike. The teachers have been striking for 6 weeks with no end in sight. I don't blame them one bit, but it's very hard on the kids. The matriculation exams will have to be put off but we aren't sure how this will all affect them in the long run. In the meantime, she's waitressing at a hotel and trying to study what she can.

    difficult child 3 is doing very well in 10th grade. Teachers are happy with his progress though they feel that if he took Ritalin it would be easier for him and he'd do even better. But, he refuses. Neuro says that since he functioning ok in school that we shouldn't force him, so we aren't.

    difficult child 4 is not doing as well and we are looking for ways to help him. He just started Jr. High and the expectations are higher than they were in his little 8:1:1 class. We've been speaking with the teachers to help them understand difficult child better and they seem to want to help. He's been acting silly and skipping math. This is what he does when hwe he doesn't understand the teachers. He's always been in a smaller class with either an extra teacher or an aide that could give him a couple of minutes to explain what he is supposed to do. Mostly, it's just the instructions that he needs to hear a few times, then he can do the work. Anyway, we're working on it.

    GFG5 is in 5th grade and will be starting an evaluation in about 2 weeks through the school. They finally agreed that we need to figure out what is hard for him, instead of just making things easier for him. In such a small school, this is a real luxury and we are very happy that they are working with us to get him ready for Jr. High.

    In August it was 4 years since Joey died, and we are all still dealing with his loss. Joey would have been in 3rd grade this year. I miss his sweetness so much.

    husband is finally working after 2 years of being unemployed. He's managing an internet startup. It's coming along and I hope that he'll make it great. If not, at least he's back in the workforce, so it will be easier changing jobs if he has to.

    This has been a really long update, so thanks if you have made it to the end. You are all so sweet to ask about us. I am sorry that I'm not more involved in the board right now, but I do look in every once in a while to see how you all are.
  2. Suz

    Suz (the future) MRS. GERE

    Chava, it was wonderful to wake up this morning and find an update from you. As always, your positive and loving attitude are inspiring.

    Hugs to you and yours,
  3. Abbey

    Abbey Spork Queen


    It's so nice to hear from you. I think of you often. Glad things seem to be on the upswing. Don't be a stranger!!

  4. busywend

    busywend Well-Known Member

    Chava! Great to 'see' you again. Thank you for the update. Things sound like they are chugging right along as life does to us. Things seem to be going well for the most part.
    I can not believe it has been 4 years since Joey died. I bet you miss him. I bet he brings a tear and a smile to you.

    HUGS and keep checking in!
  5. Lothlorien

    Lothlorien Active Member

    Good to hear from you. Glad the kids are doing well and your husband is working again. I hope things improve for gfg5. I hope you find time to post a little more.
  6. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    Thanks for the update. All in all it was uplifting to hear so many positive reports. Happy Holidays. DDD
  7. Sheila

    Sheila Moderator

    What a pleasant surprise! :smile:

    I think of you and yours often. It's good to hear from you and get an update.

    Pop in as often as you can!
  8. Allan-Matlem

    Allan-Matlem Active Member

    You and your family are often in my thoughts especially when we pass you on the way to the Dead Sea.
    You deserve all not of credit for the progress your family is making. I send you positive thoughts and prayers for more success and solutions

  9. Nancy

    Nancy Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Chava, what a wonderful update of your lovely family. I felt like I was reading a letter from an old friend. Wishing you and your family well.

  10. Star*

    Star* call 911


    Thank you for the update. I felt like Nancy did getting a letter from an old friend. Lot's of good news in there. Sorry you work so much, but glad you have a job.

    Many hugs and wishes -

    Happy 1st night
  11. Fran

    Fran Former desparate mom

    Hi Chava, nice to hear from you. Thanks for the update.
  12. gottaloveem

    gottaloveem Active Member

    I'm not sure we have "met" here before, I'm sorry you lost your son Joey four years ago. I lost my son Alex on 4/23/06. Sending big sympathetic hugs.