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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 79894" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Thanks Linda, and all.</p><p>The problem is, <strong>difficult child doesn't do these behaviors outside of our house.</strong>So no matter which placement he gets, it's got to be his behavior toward me that changes.</p><p></p><p>In the past yr, he has never actually struck me. He used to --we'd get into physical struggles. Everyone and their mother told me not to engage him. It worked. He comes right up to my face but never actually strikes me.</p><p>That tells me he's capable of holding back on all of it, since he's restraining himself to even get that far.</p><p></p><p>A friend who has an autistic son uses a nanny to help get ready for school, etc. That's an interesting idea ... a human buffer between us ... the cost would be less than boarding school and we could all stay home. That's a 5th option.</p><p></p><p>I wish our child psychiatric would just come out and TELL US WHAT TO DO. He says he'll back us if we want to place difficult child in an ADHD school or whatever we decide, which implies he agrees. But I really want something stronger than that from him.</p><p></p><p>Rest assured, something big will change within the next few wks. I am forcing the issue. A lot of this is procrastination by husband. He would never have agreed to put difficult child on medications unless I threatened to leave. Now it's at that point again, but easy child is threatening to leave. This guy just won't respond unless there's a crisis. And quite frankly, that's probably 80% of the problem.</p><p>It's possible that husband will move out with-difficult child into an apt., just to save my sanity, until we can find an appropriate placement.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 79894, member: 3419"] Thanks Linda, and all. The problem is, [b]difficult child doesn't do these behaviors outside of our house.[/b]So no matter which placement he gets, it's got to be his behavior toward me that changes. In the past yr, he has never actually struck me. He used to --we'd get into physical struggles. Everyone and their mother told me not to engage him. It worked. He comes right up to my face but never actually strikes me. That tells me he's capable of holding back on all of it, since he's restraining himself to even get that far. A friend who has an autistic son uses a nanny to help get ready for school, etc. That's an interesting idea ... a human buffer between us ... the cost would be less than boarding school and we could all stay home. That's a 5th option. I wish our child psychiatric would just come out and TELL US WHAT TO DO. He says he'll back us if we want to place difficult child in an ADHD school or whatever we decide, which implies he agrees. But I really want something stronger than that from him. Rest assured, something big will change within the next few wks. I am forcing the issue. A lot of this is procrastination by husband. He would never have agreed to put difficult child on medications unless I threatened to leave. Now it's at that point again, but easy child is threatening to leave. This guy just won't respond unless there's a crisis. And quite frankly, that's probably 80% of the problem. It's possible that husband will move out with-difficult child into an apt., just to save my sanity, until we can find an appropriate placement. [/QUOTE]
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