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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 367406" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>I called but couldn't speak with the CW, so the lady said not to worry about bringing anything, just come in for the meeting. I still can't figure what the meeting is about then, if I don't have anything else and have already submitted required paperwork on him, difficult child, and me. Whatever.</p><p></p><p>I had no choice but to file now due to filing for public assistance. Now, when I was pregnant with difficult child I found out this guy was a dead-beat dad- he owed tons of money for his first child, whose mother had filed due to needing public assistance. It had been court ordered time and time again and even warrants issued on him for not appearing in court over it. They still never got him- the police knock on the front door with a warrant, he walked out the back door. They weren't going to take the swat team to his home and surround the house. He worked undeer the table, drove on suspended license, etc. He still lives in the same state so that's why I'm not sure the courts and police would do even that much for a kid not living in that state or taking money from their own DSS.</p><p></p><p>After learning all this I called DSS there (while pregnant), and they couldn't confirm or violate his privacy but told me that since I didn't need public assistance at that time, they would not do anything on their own- they wouldn't spend money on a child who wasn't costing them money. They did say I could hire a private company, as you discussed Susie, however, what good would it have done to spend my money on that instead of difficult child if getting a court order on him doesn't get the money from him? The satisfaction of getting a court order or paternity establised ion him meant nothing, and frankly, at the time I didn't need any extra money that much. Also, DSS in that area (who had his file) said if they were pregnant with his baby, they would move and let him stay out of the child's life because they thought the child would be better off without him. I followed that advice but I don't <em>think</em> his history includes any abuse or neglect charges. If it did and DSS had that, even if I ended up getting CS, he wouldn''t get custody so that's not an issue.</p><p></p><p>When they do a swab test for paternity, do they take mine too, or just his and difficult child's?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 367406, member: 3699"] I called but couldn't speak with the CW, so the lady said not to worry about bringing anything, just come in for the meeting. I still can't figure what the meeting is about then, if I don't have anything else and have already submitted required paperwork on him, difficult child, and me. Whatever. I had no choice but to file now due to filing for public assistance. Now, when I was pregnant with difficult child I found out this guy was a dead-beat dad- he owed tons of money for his first child, whose mother had filed due to needing public assistance. It had been court ordered time and time again and even warrants issued on him for not appearing in court over it. They still never got him- the police knock on the front door with a warrant, he walked out the back door. They weren't going to take the swat team to his home and surround the house. He worked undeer the table, drove on suspended license, etc. He still lives in the same state so that's why I'm not sure the courts and police would do even that much for a kid not living in that state or taking money from their own DSS. After learning all this I called DSS there (while pregnant), and they couldn't confirm or violate his privacy but told me that since I didn't need public assistance at that time, they would not do anything on their own- they wouldn't spend money on a child who wasn't costing them money. They did say I could hire a private company, as you discussed Susie, however, what good would it have done to spend my money on that instead of difficult child if getting a court order on him doesn't get the money from him? The satisfaction of getting a court order or paternity establised ion him meant nothing, and frankly, at the time I didn't need any extra money that much. Also, DSS in that area (who had his file) said if they were pregnant with his baby, they would move and let him stay out of the child's life because they thought the child would be better off without him. I followed that advice but I don't [I]think[/I] his history includes any abuse or neglect charges. If it did and DSS had that, even if I ended up getting CS, he wouldn''t get custody so that's not an issue. When they do a swab test for paternity, do they take mine too, or just his and difficult child's? [/QUOTE]
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