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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 367414" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>As far as custody- I have no doubt that ordinarily he wouldn't stand a chance in hades. But difficult child's custody (at least temporarily- but he's 15yo) will be an issue again, no doubt. The issue is that I have now made it CLEAR (for the second time) to a judge that I have hit my limit. This automatically means reappointing a GAL who will review difficult child's placement...again. This leads to Department of Juvenile Justice saying they have no appropriate place to put him and he didn't go to Department of Juvenile Justice, therefore they HAVE to involve DSS for another family assessment. If difficult child goes to DSS, our recent DSS policies/laws leave them no choice but to put difficult child into the care of a family member and that means my bro because he has had his name listed with them for the past 3 years. I personally would prefer difficult child fgo to his father than to my bro. Yes, I know he's a dead-beat dad and probably won't take difficult child- except if he thinks he can't get by without paying CS this time, he <em>might</em> prefer custody over paying me CS. </p><p></p><p>This might seem like excessive worry to some, but I am pretty sure it is another "I see it coming event" based on how I've seen things play out and what I've been told over the past 3-4 years. </p><p></p><p>What's going on now? The judge can either choose to call another hearing in the near future to address my MH evaluation and 1) order mental health treatment for me; 2) have me address my letter saying I'm not taking medications or getting treatment for familial tremors under some pretense that this caused difficult child's delinquency. If either of these things happen, I can appeal it which puts it in a higher court with a different judge.</p><p></p><p>Or, the current judge might not do anything just yet and since difficult child has no upcoming hearings scheduled at this pooint, he would automatically come home to me- they have no legal authority or judgement to do otherwise- but if (when) difficult child gets into trouble again, assign the GAL and call in DSS for the same ole, same ole.</p><p></p><p>However, I have to move out of the house within 1-2 months and that's about the time difficult child will be released from detention. So far, I have no place to move us to. I'm not sure what I'm going to do if I know we'd both be homeless. I am going to try to prevent that, of course. I have a call into my DSS worker for public assistance. As you can guess, the DSS worker for public assistance, CS, and family assessments are all different people. (Family assessment is not the same as CPS- it's the portion of DSS that works with the courts in delinquency cases.) This is how my bro got around the custody case, which he had no cahnce in hades of winning. If difficult child ever goes into foster care, he would go straight to my bro without my bro having to prove he would be a better "parent" or anything else. If difficult child's father is iinvolved, however, the first consideration would be for him.</p><p></p><p>It's not that I've manipulated all this- I honestly had NO choice but to file for public assistance and that set all this in motion.</p><p></p><p>The only thing that could make a major difference is if my bro doesn't pass a home study, but that's highly unlikely. It doesn't take a genius to remove weapons from a house and clean it and act like they care. He's living a gay lifestyle- with a signifacnt other- and that could put a big damper on it due to laws in my state, however, the dss in his state allows them to be foster care guardians, but not to adopt. Anyway, all states are hurting so much right now as their case loads increase and they have less funding for placements into group homes, non-relative foster placements, etc, they'll probably accept any home that has a roof and food. His state isn't known for making good decisions by DSS to begin with.</p><p></p><p>I'm not allowed to do a parental placement (where I have to agree of the placement and can revoke my permission and keep parental rights) with dss because difficult child is in the juvenile court system. I tried that before he went to Department of Juvenile Justice last year.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 367414, member: 3699"] As far as custody- I have no doubt that ordinarily he wouldn't stand a chance in hades. But difficult child's custody (at least temporarily- but he's 15yo) will be an issue again, no doubt. The issue is that I have now made it CLEAR (for the second time) to a judge that I have hit my limit. This automatically means reappointing a GAL who will review difficult child's placement...again. This leads to Department of Juvenile Justice saying they have no appropriate place to put him and he didn't go to Department of Juvenile Justice, therefore they HAVE to involve DSS for another family assessment. If difficult child goes to DSS, our recent DSS policies/laws leave them no choice but to put difficult child into the care of a family member and that means my bro because he has had his name listed with them for the past 3 years. I personally would prefer difficult child fgo to his father than to my bro. Yes, I know he's a dead-beat dad and probably won't take difficult child- except if he thinks he can't get by without paying CS this time, he [I]might[/I] prefer custody over paying me CS. This might seem like excessive worry to some, but I am pretty sure it is another "I see it coming event" based on how I've seen things play out and what I've been told over the past 3-4 years. What's going on now? The judge can either choose to call another hearing in the near future to address my MH evaluation and 1) order mental health treatment for me; 2) have me address my letter saying I'm not taking medications or getting treatment for familial tremors under some pretense that this caused difficult child's delinquency. If either of these things happen, I can appeal it which puts it in a higher court with a different judge. Or, the current judge might not do anything just yet and since difficult child has no upcoming hearings scheduled at this pooint, he would automatically come home to me- they have no legal authority or judgement to do otherwise- but if (when) difficult child gets into trouble again, assign the GAL and call in DSS for the same ole, same ole. However, I have to move out of the house within 1-2 months and that's about the time difficult child will be released from detention. So far, I have no place to move us to. I'm not sure what I'm going to do if I know we'd both be homeless. I am going to try to prevent that, of course. I have a call into my DSS worker for public assistance. As you can guess, the DSS worker for public assistance, CS, and family assessments are all different people. (Family assessment is not the same as CPS- it's the portion of DSS that works with the courts in delinquency cases.) This is how my bro got around the custody case, which he had no cahnce in hades of winning. If difficult child ever goes into foster care, he would go straight to my bro without my bro having to prove he would be a better "parent" or anything else. If difficult child's father is iinvolved, however, the first consideration would be for him. It's not that I've manipulated all this- I honestly had NO choice but to file for public assistance and that set all this in motion. The only thing that could make a major difference is if my bro doesn't pass a home study, but that's highly unlikely. It doesn't take a genius to remove weapons from a house and clean it and act like they care. He's living a gay lifestyle- with a signifacnt other- and that could put a big damper on it due to laws in my state, however, the dss in his state allows them to be foster care guardians, but not to adopt. Anyway, all states are hurting so much right now as their case loads increase and they have less funding for placements into group homes, non-relative foster placements, etc, they'll probably accept any home that has a roof and food. His state isn't known for making good decisions by DSS to begin with. I'm not allowed to do a parental placement (where I have to agree of the placement and can revoke my permission and keep parental rights) with dss because difficult child is in the juvenile court system. I tried that before he went to Department of Juvenile Justice last year. [/QUOTE]
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