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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 478632" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>PG...</p><p></p><p>What, exactly, are you trying to hang on to?</p><p>The tradition of the holiday?</p><p>The image of a "real family"?</p><p>Something else entirely?</p><p></p><p>My parents don't celebrate xmas, but if the whole crew gets together, Mom does a turkey.... just because "how else do you feed 30+ people", not because its "tradition"... </p><p></p><p>We are just the 4 of us.</p><p>Most of the "traditions" don't make sense for us.</p><p></p><p>We've had to step back and consider... just what are we trying to accomplish?</p><p>We have found that small (i.e. non-holiday) traditions, are worth keeping. Like, in our house, if one of us is leaving the house (i.e. going off property), the rest of us stop and say goodby... we "always" say goodby... its a tradition in our house.</p><p></p><p>The big ones? only if it actually has meaning or value to those participating right now...</p><p></p><p>We've opted to "make good memories" rather than "preserve traditions".</p><p>Better to have a "make your own pizza party" and a raft of good memories, than a turkey dinner and bad feelings.</p><p>A great big busy day, doesn't work for any of us... took a while, but we're fine with it now.</p><p></p><p>Is it more important to you to be part of the formal "thanksgiving dinner" tradition? or to have family home and together? Those are choices you can make, once you realize that you're not going to get "all of it".</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 478632, member: 11791"] PG... What, exactly, are you trying to hang on to? The tradition of the holiday? The image of a "real family"? Something else entirely? My parents don't celebrate xmas, but if the whole crew gets together, Mom does a turkey.... just because "how else do you feed 30+ people", not because its "tradition"... We are just the 4 of us. Most of the "traditions" don't make sense for us. We've had to step back and consider... just what are we trying to accomplish? We have found that small (i.e. non-holiday) traditions, are worth keeping. Like, in our house, if one of us is leaving the house (i.e. going off property), the rest of us stop and say goodby... we "always" say goodby... its a tradition in our house. The big ones? only if it actually has meaning or value to those participating right now... We've opted to "make good memories" rather than "preserve traditions". Better to have a "make your own pizza party" and a raft of good memories, than a turkey dinner and bad feelings. A great big busy day, doesn't work for any of us... took a while, but we're fine with it now. Is it more important to you to be part of the formal "thanksgiving dinner" tradition? or to have family home and together? Those are choices you can make, once you realize that you're not going to get "all of it". [/QUOTE]
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