Circle of Support for Klmno & difficult child

Discussion in 'The Watercooler' started by DDD, Mar 20, 2010.

  1. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    Let's send support this week to Klmno and her son. They are getting reacquainted after a long separation and any positive thoughts and prayers coming their way might make it easier for both of them. So...with sincere caring...I'm sending my support from Florida and reaching out to ??
  2. GoingNorth

    GoingNorth Crazy Cat Lady

    North Central WI...reaching out to...?
  3. Abbey

    Abbey Spork Queen

    Just south of you GN. I wish Klmno and all involved the best of luck and love.

  4. lmf64

    lmf64 New Member

    Reaching out from Minnesota to >>>>>
  5. nvts

    nvts Active Member

    to New York...rooting for the two of you!

    On to...
  6. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Wisconsin...hoping for the best-saying many prayers-onto...
  7. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful

    Grabbing onto nvts's hand from ohio and reaching out to..............

    by the way it's Hound dog aka Daisylover.......

    Hope it goes well for both of you.

  8. jal

    jal Member

    To 70 degrees in CT today and wishing you and difficult child the so deserve this to go well...and a hand to...
  9. klmno

    klmno Active Member

    Wow! Thank you, Ladies- and especially DDD for thinking of us to this extent! We had a great day- difficult child helped a lot around the house after we returned from clothes shopping. He decided since neither of the jeans I bought him fit well and they were priced high and he had a limited budget, that he wanted to get the cash (which I kept for him) and shop at a less expensive store, so that is what we did. And, I had gotten him the package deal at the movie/game rental place so since we watched a movie together last night, tonight he has a boxing game that he is playing. This is after he ate his meal of polish sausage and rice that he'd requested while incarcerated and having a piece of b-day cake. He's happy, I think, and will be exhausted shortly- which goes a long way for sleeping through the night. LOL!

    I know it might have seemed bad or mean to leave some of this stuff around the house for him to help with, but I'm reminded of my step-father who used this method of everyone in the household helping out as 1) a way to save money since we weren't paying others, 2) a way to get us to respect the house more and keep it clean and undamaged, and 3) a way for us all to feel a personal stake in it and that we really belonged in it- like we had a bit of ownership because we worked for it, too. difficult child seems to feel this way- right now I can't imaginge him ever damaging anything in it again, assuming he doesn't get heavily involved in drugs in the future.

    You can even tell by the way the dogs are acting- we ALL keep sighing and looking and smiling because it seems we are jumping up doing whatever it takes to get us one little step closer to "normalcy", which we haven't felt for close to 2 years. Even if we don't get there as planned I can't help but think this is good for us and helping him in some way. As all of our difficult child's, he's not all bad and I do love him very much. It was all I could do for a while to maintain my own life, but some of the things I have heard him say to me the past two days made so many of my efforts worth it. I had thought I might never hear those words from my son's mouth, much less anytime before he was 30 yo. I am so thankful that the judge didn't lsiten to the GAL, that she made the choice she did, and also that the PO put things across to difficult child in a way that was subtle, non-threatening, but still letting difficult child know that I was his mom and he (the PO) would be basing a lot of future decisions on how I reported difficult child was doing- so for once, I feel like the PO is backing me up. Now, if the mentor can be an asset instead of a hindrance or a rouge, difficult child should be good to go with the best opportunity he has. And he's trying- he seems to feel good by showing me how responsible he is now and how well he can help out and how thankful he is that I am trusting him again. It's like when the baby is born and you stand in the doorway and watch them sleep in the crib- worried, frightened about the future, proud, and wishing you knew all the right answers for everything that could possibly happen but knowing that all you can really do is take it one step at a time and do the best you can.

    I would like to encourage all warrior moms (and dads) here not to give up- we might not have a clue what is the right answer with our difficult child's and it's certainly way too soon to say mine has turned the corner, but I'm so thankful that I didn't give up and turn my back. And thank you again- all of you- for being there today and the past few years. I hope I can give back and help someone else the way people here have educated me, supported me, and just been there to listen when I needed it the most. We all need to know sometimes that our difficult child's do really love us and the challenges they present to us aren't because they don't care about us or want to hurt us or don't appreciate our efforts. I am so thankful that I could hear this from my son in a time and method that makes me believe he was sincere about it-
    Last edited: Mar 20, 2010
  10. busywend

    busywend Well-Known Member Staff Member

    So - how did the dog greeting go??????
  11. klmno

    klmno Active Member

    Oh gosh, I forgot to mention! Of course his dog (the female) remembered him but after a few mins of wagging and sniffing she did bark a couple of times but it wasn't a bark like she would do if it was a stranger- it was almost a demanding bark. LOL! The male, on the other hand, that is kind of considered "my dog" because he's very humble and a rescue dog, but we tease about him and difficult child being the "men of the hosue"- he really went nuts greeting difficult child. difficult child's dog picked him out when she was a pup and difficult child was about 5-6 yo. We got this rescue dog about 5 years ago and he's always seemed closer to me- but he went wild over difficult child. difficult child has been scratching backs and rubbing bellies and giving treats and saying "well, the belly isn't really all that big" ever since he got home. He has also had to get used to a few dog hairs on his clothes again. LOL!
  12. GoingNorth

    GoingNorth Crazy Cat Lady

    I have a German Shepherd. Please define a FEW dog hairs for me?
  13. klmno

    klmno Active Member

    LOL! Not as many as a dog who techniquely sheds. We have lhasa apsos- they don't shed in the truest sense but the female is a long-haired tomboy and always has some hair floating around the house. And 99% of her hair is white so it shows up on about all clothing.
  14. GoingNorth

    GoingNorth Crazy Cat Lady

    I had to ask, KLMO. Gryphon's winter coat is coming out in what I refer to as "cotton balls". I have dust bunnies the size of term infants. My very shorthaired cat is shedding out as well. It's just a regular fur factory around this place right now.

    I have a friend who has Shih Tzus and they shed very long white or blonde hairs. Very human looking, actually.
  15. Abbey

    Abbey Spork Queen

    I'd take pet therapy over any other kind.
  16. ML

    ML Guest

    Embracing you in Colorado with love and support to
  17. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member

    From Colo to VA! Here are more hugs to keep you going and keep the transition going smoothly. It's great that you had him do chores; he is part of the family and that's what families do.
    Love the stuff about the dogs. :)
  18. totoro

    totoro Mom? What's a GFG?

    I am thinking or your guys hair and all! Rooting for you.

    You deserve so much positive for a change K.
    My little long haired Calico is shedding up a storm! Sometimes we give her a lion cut to keep sticky burrs out of her fur. She actually seems to enjoy it.
  19. klmno

    klmno Active Member

    Thank you! We are cleaning more today- difficult child changed the air filters so that might help with floating dog hair! They just got groomed so there shouldn't be so much now.

    Guess what- I found my glasses! (They were under one of the dog's beds- and I have no idea how they ended up there.) That along with finding that they are selling Mars bars again has me believing that maybe there is such a thing as miracles! I'll have to confirm that in about 3 years though.
  20. KTMom91

    KTMom91 Well-Known Member

    Sounds like things are going well! Many hugs from Central CA!