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I don't know if you remember but I read that book when my one son was 12 or 13 and ended up in the psychiatric hospital (the same time as Buddy's boy). The wonderful parents here recommended it and using the Collaborative Problem Solving is what made me realize that he really, really thought differently than most people I knew. A lot of "issues" went by the wayside (Basket C) and a few remained in Basket B. Taking his medications was the only thing that was a Basket A issue. Once I learned how he thought, which led to an accurate diagnosis, our whole world changed. It took awhile to learn to keep my cool and talk with him. He has learned that negotiation works for the most part but is not a 100% guarantee. And now that I've gotten very good at seeing things from his point of view, there is peace in the house ..... for the most part. He's 17 now and pushing the typical teen boundaries but I always listen to "his side of the story" before doing anything.

<blockquote data-quote="TeDo" data-source="post: 685448" data-attributes="member: 15799"><p>I don't know if you remember but I read that book when my one son was 12 or 13 and ended up in the psychiatric hospital (the same time as Buddy's boy). The wonderful parents here recommended it and using the Collaborative Problem Solving is what made me realize that he really, really thought differently than most people I knew. A lot of &quot;issues&quot; went by the wayside (Basket C) and a few remained in Basket B. Taking his medications was the only thing that was a Basket A issue. Once I learned how he thought, which led to an accurate diagnosis, our whole world changed. It took awhile to learn to keep my cool and talk with him. He has learned that negotiation works for the most part but is not a 100% guarantee. And now that I've gotten very good at seeing things from his point of view, there is peace in the house ..... for the most part. He's 17 now and pushing the typical teen boundaries but I always listen to &quot;his side of the story&quot; before doing anything.</p></blockquote><p></p>

[QUOTE="TeDo, post: 685448, member: 15799"] I don't know if you remember but I read that book when my one son was 12 or 13 and ended up in the psychiatric hospital (the same time as Buddy's boy). The wonderful parents here recommended it and using the Collaborative Problem Solving is what made me realize that he really, really thought differently than most people I knew. A lot of "issues" went by the wayside (Basket C) and a few remained in Basket B. Taking his medications was the only thing that was a Basket A issue. Once I learned how he thought, which led to an accurate diagnosis, our whole world changed. It took awhile to learn to keep my cool and talk with him. He has learned that negotiation works for the most part but is not a 100% guarantee. And now that I've gotten very good at seeing things from his point of view, there is peace in the house ..... for the most part. He's 17 now and pushing the typical teen boundaries but I always listen to "his side of the story" before doing anything. [/QUOTE]

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