I wanted to talk a little about this (the method coined by Dr Ross Greene cf "The Explosive Child) and to ask whether others are using it. I read the book some years ago, when my son J was about five or six, was interested in it and thought it good but for some reason (I forget) didn't feel it would be of much actual concrete use to me/us. However... now J is 9 and the rages/explosions/meltdowns continue apace, making life frequently unbearable for both of us. I get stressed and angry also, we have ended up with extremely dysfunctional situations in which it would be difficult to tell who was most and least in control (to be very honest). Situation couldn't go on, something has to give and change. I am actively looking for tools and strategies to make things be different. And just recently I've rediscovered Dr Greene and the website of his organisation Lives in the Balance (it is GREAT - so much useful material on it). I have watched videos/listened to talks and... more importantly... begun trying to practice "Plan B" with J rather than "Plan A" (telling him what to do and then getting upset/angry/trying to enforce consequences when he refuses to do it - which SIMPLY DOES NOT WORK). And... it is such early days but... I can really feel and see that there is something different going on here, that what happens as a result is creative and good and is far, far more likely to lead to co-operation than the traditional discipline methods. The child feels respected and heard, and responds. So... I am interested to know... who else here is using it, with what success?