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college age son (19) has pregnant girlfriend, has started smoking pot with buddies
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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 507727" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>Welcome very tired and I'm sorry for what's going on in your life with your son. Has he had problems with drinking or drug use before this as far as you know? This is a very sad situation because as you said there is a baby coming in four short months and neither one of them are prepared or equipped to take care of it. Do you have any contact with the girl's parents or is that not possible? I wish our difficult children could see this coming before they decide to have unprotected sex. An unplanned pregnancy is hard enough on couples who are committed to each other and have the support and maturity to handle it.</p><p></p><p>You have two serious problems going on, one is the pregnancy which you probably don't have much to say about, and the other is your son's drinking and drug use. The first thing I would do is stop paying for an apartment that he is using as adrug house. Depending on your lease you may be responsible financially until they can rent it but no way would I allow him to stay there and be irresponsible. Then I would tell him he has to get a full time job so that he can fulfill his responsibilities to his child. It's sad to say but he now has adult responsibilities nd he will have to step up to them.</p><p></p><p>If he has not had problems with drugs before, this is a reaction to everything that has happened and hopefully can be nipped in the bud if you pull the rug out from under his party. Is he willing to talk with a counselor who can help him sort out his feelings?</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 507727, member: 59"] Welcome very tired and I'm sorry for what's going on in your life with your son. Has he had problems with drinking or drug use before this as far as you know? This is a very sad situation because as you said there is a baby coming in four short months and neither one of them are prepared or equipped to take care of it. Do you have any contact with the girl's parents or is that not possible? I wish our difficult children could see this coming before they decide to have unprotected sex. An unplanned pregnancy is hard enough on couples who are committed to each other and have the support and maturity to handle it. You have two serious problems going on, one is the pregnancy which you probably don't have much to say about, and the other is your son's drinking and drug use. The first thing I would do is stop paying for an apartment that he is using as adrug house. Depending on your lease you may be responsible financially until they can rent it but no way would I allow him to stay there and be irresponsible. Then I would tell him he has to get a full time job so that he can fulfill his responsibilities to his child. It's sad to say but he now has adult responsibilities nd he will have to step up to them. If he has not had problems with drugs before, this is a reaction to everything that has happened and hopefully can be nipped in the bud if you pull the rug out from under his party. Is he willing to talk with a counselor who can help him sort out his feelings? Nancy [/QUOTE]
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