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college age son (19) has pregnant girlfriend, has started smoking pot with buddies
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<blockquote data-quote="Tiredof33" data-source="post: 507773" data-attributes="member: 13558"><p>A teen pregnancy is so very stressful without the drugs involvement too. I am sure that she is just scared and went back to the safety of her home. If he is dulling his pain with drugs he isn't thinking clearly either, kind of like ignore it and it will go away. He may have been using drugs before. Not to be mean, but, they don't seem to be mature enough to handle a baby on their own and they are going to need a lot of help.</p><p></p><p>Having 2 grands that I love dearly I also would want to know that I would be able to see my grandchild if they do not get back together. Since you did not want her to have an abortion or give the baby up for adoption sounds like you want the baby.</p><p></p><p> Have you and your husband had a chance to talk to her parents?? I am sure they are not happy with your son right now, but you can also let them know that you are there for the mother and baby without given them details about your son.You only have four months to determine what role you will play in your grandchild's life (I assume it is the first?) and how much support you will give the young mother regardless of your sons involvement with the baby. Are you close to the mother? Do you plan on being with her for the birth of the baby?</p><p></p><p>I would not be very happy at all about paying for the hangout for the druggies. He also will be paying child support and he will have visitations, unless he chooses not to, or unless he continues with the drugs and she gets full custody. But from what you have described he is not going to listen even if you did get a chance to talk to him. You can't control his life, but you don't have to pay for his parties either, and he may come around after the baby is born.</p><p></p><p>I'm no expert either, but I would be thinking about YOU and what role you intend to have in the baby's life.This pregnancy affects everyone and a family counselor would be a great place to start. My sister (very religous) went through the same thing with a son your sons age and a 17yo teen. Sister was embarrassed (small church) and practically forced them to get married. They are still together 2 years later but they are still struggling and depend on my sister a lot. I don't think that getting married is always the answer, it may add to the stress.</p><p></p><p>And 'it will be OK' but it doesn't sound like it is going to be easy. My theory is that God should have made us with automatic birth conrol that we had to remove it surgically before we could have children. Wouldn't life be so much simpler!!</p><p></p><p>I can also let you know that all of the car bumpers that read 'let me tell you about my grandchildren' is true (for most anyway) they are so much fun to spoil.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiredof33, post: 507773, member: 13558"] A teen pregnancy is so very stressful without the drugs involvement too. I am sure that she is just scared and went back to the safety of her home. If he is dulling his pain with drugs he isn't thinking clearly either, kind of like ignore it and it will go away. He may have been using drugs before. Not to be mean, but, they don't seem to be mature enough to handle a baby on their own and they are going to need a lot of help. Having 2 grands that I love dearly I also would want to know that I would be able to see my grandchild if they do not get back together. Since you did not want her to have an abortion or give the baby up for adoption sounds like you want the baby. Have you and your husband had a chance to talk to her parents?? I am sure they are not happy with your son right now, but you can also let them know that you are there for the mother and baby without given them details about your son.You only have four months to determine what role you will play in your grandchild's life (I assume it is the first?) and how much support you will give the young mother regardless of your sons involvement with the baby. Are you close to the mother? Do you plan on being with her for the birth of the baby? I would not be very happy at all about paying for the hangout for the druggies. He also will be paying child support and he will have visitations, unless he chooses not to, or unless he continues with the drugs and she gets full custody. But from what you have described he is not going to listen even if you did get a chance to talk to him. You can't control his life, but you don't have to pay for his parties either, and he may come around after the baby is born. I'm no expert either, but I would be thinking about YOU and what role you intend to have in the baby's life.This pregnancy affects everyone and a family counselor would be a great place to start. My sister (very religous) went through the same thing with a son your sons age and a 17yo teen. Sister was embarrassed (small church) and practically forced them to get married. They are still together 2 years later but they are still struggling and depend on my sister a lot. I don't think that getting married is always the answer, it may add to the stress. And 'it will be OK' but it doesn't sound like it is going to be easy. My theory is that God should have made us with automatic birth conrol that we had to remove it surgically before we could have children. Wouldn't life be so much simpler!! I can also let you know that all of the car bumpers that read 'let me tell you about my grandchildren' is true (for most anyway) they are so much fun to spoil. [/QUOTE]
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