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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 558396" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>As wretched an idea as this is like to be, is there any chance that your husband could return to court to request court ordered boundaries to prevent certain behaviors by bio mom when speaking with difficult child? I ask this because I recently had a court battle (not initiated by me) that ended up revealing years of parent alienation for my easy child from her dad and his wife. I was always aware in a small level that they spoke to easy child inappropriately about me and my s/o. But once court was initiated, boat loads of new info was revealed that showed a level of damage to easy child that will linger for a lifetime. If I had known, I would have taken ex to court years ago and outed to the family court what his actions were. If you do a search for parent alienation, you can read the effect on children put into this position. Silence in the face of true alienation can destroy a child. My easy child was contemplating with seriousness, taking her own life. She is 13 now. In our now open dialogue, I know now that by age 9, her pain was huge and confusion was immense. Presented to a court with the right motive, protection from emotional harm for your difficult child, may be an option to consider. Courts are more and more aware these days of the reality for children forced to listen to this from winter parent or both parents. difficult child deserves protection from this. His bio mom choosing to force difficult child into a position of a power struggle with your husband, is a huge flag that alienation is already in the harmful stage. Regardless of his bio moms dislike of your husband or even you, every child needs to know its ok to love both parents. And it's not ok to be forced to pick sides etc. nor should bio mom be putting difficult child in a position to have to hate your husband in order to gain favor with bio mom. </p><p></p><p>I personally recommend finding a therapist well schooled in parent alienation and working with children in broken homes. Setting a trail now of documentation of ideas put into difficult children mind, could be the key later to a judge intervening in a healthy way ton prevent ongoing harm for difficult child. Meanwhile, difficult child would benefit from a therapist to help him navigate this mine field. </p><p></p><p>I'm sorry your difficult child is going through this. Document document document everything.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 558396, member: 4264"] As wretched an idea as this is like to be, is there any chance that your husband could return to court to request court ordered boundaries to prevent certain behaviors by bio mom when speaking with difficult child? I ask this because I recently had a court battle (not initiated by me) that ended up revealing years of parent alienation for my easy child from her dad and his wife. I was always aware in a small level that they spoke to easy child inappropriately about me and my s/o. But once court was initiated, boat loads of new info was revealed that showed a level of damage to easy child that will linger for a lifetime. If I had known, I would have taken ex to court years ago and outed to the family court what his actions were. If you do a search for parent alienation, you can read the effect on children put into this position. Silence in the face of true alienation can destroy a child. My easy child was contemplating with seriousness, taking her own life. She is 13 now. In our now open dialogue, I know now that by age 9, her pain was huge and confusion was immense. Presented to a court with the right motive, protection from emotional harm for your difficult child, may be an option to consider. Courts are more and more aware these days of the reality for children forced to listen to this from winter parent or both parents. difficult child deserves protection from this. His bio mom choosing to force difficult child into a position of a power struggle with your husband, is a huge flag that alienation is already in the harmful stage. Regardless of his bio moms dislike of your husband or even you, every child needs to know its ok to love both parents. And it's not ok to be forced to pick sides etc. nor should bio mom be putting difficult child in a position to have to hate your husband in order to gain favor with bio mom. I personally recommend finding a therapist well schooled in parent alienation and working with children in broken homes. Setting a trail now of documentation of ideas put into difficult children mind, could be the key later to a judge intervening in a healthy way ton prevent ongoing harm for difficult child. Meanwhile, difficult child would benefit from a therapist to help him navigate this mine field. I'm sorry your difficult child is going through this. Document document document everything. [/QUOTE]
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