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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 373430" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Okay admittedly - I have been through shrinkydink hades. </p><p> </p><p>first time? girlfriend drove me there and locked me out of HER car and said - GO or walk home - Home was 110 miles. I told her I'd prove I didn't need them....stayed 2 hours. </p><p> </p><p>second time? Caught the therapist checking her palm pilot thingy - (way back) and I got up and left. Found a new counselor. </p><p> </p><p>Got new counselor at church - OMG. he was pretty awesome except they wanted me to stay with a man that abused and tortured me. Not happening. Met a woman in the hall - ended up at a place called Sister care. Got good counseling from them - they recommended another woman. She was a little off the deep end for individual "christian" counseling. Went back to the church talked to the pastor - he was spot on and recommended divorce and another man. </p><p> </p><p>Saw new guy - couldn't afford him so I cleaned his offices in a swap before my appointment. Then stayed 1 1/2 hours a week. he was AWESOME. Stuck with him for about 3 1/2 years. Left due to x moving. Not x then - but soon to be. Left x - went back to womans shelter for advice. Got great advice, got divorce, went back to mental health for "free" counseling. </p><p> </p><p>OMG - FREE is exactly free - so kept on, keeping on - and switched me and my son from nutty professor to good guy, then he died, to a better guy, then he moved, then got a woman and SHE moved, and so it goes and finally after about getting sick of telling my sad little story over and over - I wrote some of it out, handed the first 5 pages out - if they could stomach that? I'd stay and hear what they had to advise - if not? I left. </p><p> </p><p>Ended up the last seven years with the BEST counselor/therapist my entire family ever had. He was the therapist for the prisoners within the prison system here in SC. I mean - who else better to counsel a difficult child and tell a Mother how to nip it in the bud huh? yeah - So .......ahem.....saw him and after about a year realized he was not fooling around with me, or Dude (when he was home and not in a facility) and even saw DF - With me it wasn't mandatory - either you want to be with us or not (DF is dear fiance of 11 years) ---so on his own he said "I want to go with you." and we all went. Mostly DF said he went because he didn't want an 11 year old to outsmart him. (no kidding). But seriously -we kept at it. I had MAJOR baggage from my marriage/divorce. You just don't even know....oy. </p><p> </p><p>And my kid? Well you know that line in Men In Black where they say Best of the Best of the best? Yeah well Mine is more of the Worst of the Worst of the Worst....Few would offer to trade with me. I'm never taken up on swap a kid weekends, I have NO friends left - save for the ones I have made here.....and I thank my son for cutting the weak from the herd. Not kidding.....it got that bad. I don't blame them. Not sure if things were different....well yeah I do know if they were different because I'm here for everyone else. </p><p> </p><p>Anyway - my best advice dear is to just go, and give it a few times. Don't judge immediately. I KNEW I would not like a man counselor - OH I JUST KNEW.....and yeah well the two best I had in my life? Older men. Sage, if you will. Not all are.....the two worst? The ones I thought would really relate to me. Younger women more my age at the time. Not sage, not life experienced. To me? Experience not age counts. Just don't give up -----three kids, a husband and a high profile job? You are going to need a <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/censored2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":censored2:" title="censored2 :censored2:" data-shortname=":censored2:" />ing buddy - that is NOT your family, is NOT your husband, and is NOT your friends.....it makes you a better daughter, better wife and a more desireable friend to have around and keep being invited to things......trust me. You use those people closest to you as your sounding board and eventually you start getting dropped from events....promise. </p><p> </p><p>Anyway - oh did you want this one to be a girl??? (coochie coochie....) Okay then TWINS! One each. mwah ahahahahaha........(INSERT EVIL AUNTIE STAR LAUGH)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 373430, member: 4964"] Okay admittedly - I have been through shrinkydink hades. first time? girlfriend drove me there and locked me out of HER car and said - GO or walk home - Home was 110 miles. I told her I'd prove I didn't need them....stayed 2 hours. second time? Caught the therapist checking her palm pilot thingy - (way back) and I got up and left. Found a new counselor. Got new counselor at church - OMG. he was pretty awesome except they wanted me to stay with a man that abused and tortured me. Not happening. Met a woman in the hall - ended up at a place called Sister care. Got good counseling from them - they recommended another woman. She was a little off the deep end for individual "christian" counseling. Went back to the church talked to the pastor - he was spot on and recommended divorce and another man. Saw new guy - couldn't afford him so I cleaned his offices in a swap before my appointment. Then stayed 1 1/2 hours a week. he was AWESOME. Stuck with him for about 3 1/2 years. Left due to x moving. Not x then - but soon to be. Left x - went back to womans shelter for advice. Got great advice, got divorce, went back to mental health for "free" counseling. OMG - FREE is exactly free - so kept on, keeping on - and switched me and my son from nutty professor to good guy, then he died, to a better guy, then he moved, then got a woman and SHE moved, and so it goes and finally after about getting sick of telling my sad little story over and over - I wrote some of it out, handed the first 5 pages out - if they could stomach that? I'd stay and hear what they had to advise - if not? I left. Ended up the last seven years with the BEST counselor/therapist my entire family ever had. He was the therapist for the prisoners within the prison system here in SC. I mean - who else better to counsel a difficult child and tell a Mother how to nip it in the bud huh? yeah - So .......ahem.....saw him and after about a year realized he was not fooling around with me, or Dude (when he was home and not in a facility) and even saw DF - With me it wasn't mandatory - either you want to be with us or not (DF is dear fiance of 11 years) ---so on his own he said "I want to go with you." and we all went. Mostly DF said he went because he didn't want an 11 year old to outsmart him. (no kidding). But seriously -we kept at it. I had MAJOR baggage from my marriage/divorce. You just don't even know....oy. And my kid? Well you know that line in Men In Black where they say Best of the Best of the best? Yeah well Mine is more of the Worst of the Worst of the Worst....Few would offer to trade with me. I'm never taken up on swap a kid weekends, I have NO friends left - save for the ones I have made here.....and I thank my son for cutting the weak from the herd. Not kidding.....it got that bad. I don't blame them. Not sure if things were different....well yeah I do know if they were different because I'm here for everyone else. Anyway - my best advice dear is to just go, and give it a few times. Don't judge immediately. I KNEW I would not like a man counselor - OH I JUST KNEW.....and yeah well the two best I had in my life? Older men. Sage, if you will. Not all are.....the two worst? The ones I thought would really relate to me. Younger women more my age at the time. Not sage, not life experienced. To me? Experience not age counts. Just don't give up -----three kids, a husband and a high profile job? You are going to need a :censored2:ing buddy - that is NOT your family, is NOT your husband, and is NOT your friends.....it makes you a better daughter, better wife and a more desireable friend to have around and keep being invited to things......trust me. You use those people closest to you as your sounding board and eventually you start getting dropped from events....promise. Anyway - oh did you want this one to be a girl??? (coochie coochie....) Okay then TWINS! One each. mwah ahahahahaha........(INSERT EVIL AUNTIE STAR LAUGH) [/QUOTE]
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