my difficult child, 7, is so up and down. we had a lot of behavior issues the last few weeks. i have tried now to implement two new resources. today we saw his psychiatric dr for first time. my husband refused to go, more on that later. therapy evaluation went pretty well. actually the whole day went fine for my difficult child, until he asked me about the token system chart i developed to reward him for good behavior. i explnd that with good behavior on various things on list, he would eafn stars. stars would earn privileges, like video games and tv, etc., 1 hr at a time. he looked @ it like i was taking away all his favorite things on a day he was being good. sigh.... not my intention, but now i'm the witch of the west. my son threw a huge tantrum. i gave him a choice- go to bed now or get rid of the attitude and stay up another hour. he said neither, so i picked for him-bed. i have been trying to b more firm with him and i follow through. he physically blocked me from putting him in bed every way possible. everytime i lft the room, like a 3 yr old he kept getting up to defy me. i had to drag him kicking and screaming back to bed for over an hr tonight. i had been calm and firm, too, not backing down. he was going to go to bed. whag my husband can get him to do in 5 min situation, took me over an hr and he still wouldn't abide by me. he even started pushing me as i stood over him to show him i meant business and he wasn't getting out of bed. didn't want to practice spanking anymore, but felt i had run out of options. i was finally sooo overwhelmed and defeated i put him with my husband and left the house for 2.5 hrs driving and thinking til 1:30 am. i'm not spkg to my husband and cldn't even ask for help either, after he earlier refused to attend my difficult child's 1st therapy session today. i'm so frustrated with them both. feel so alone and defeated once again.