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Contact with homeless son. Wants to visit and stay for couple of nights.
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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 622132" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Lucy, what a wonderful plan! You have created the most optimum conditions possible given the amount of "control" (I put that word in quotes advisedly, lol) you have over your son. </p><p></p><p>What more can anybody do?</p><p></p><p>Something I am wondering---</p><p></p><p>If you need to take him back earlier, will that go well? I mean, will he go willingly? If not, would you have help convincing him from someone so you don't get into a confrontation with him? </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Yes! That happens with me too. It's good for me when I'm not focusing to hopefully or stridently on HIM. Also, not having constant eye contact gives me a break so I can think more clearly and not react.</p><p></p><p>I hope you can relax into the time between now and then. Lucy, you have carefully thought about what you want (seeing your precious son) and how to go about it as best you can so it works for all.</p><p></p><p>I hope you can talk with him before the visit so you can clearly state how glad you are he is coming and how things need to be. A suggestion---write it down and have it ready so you can pull out your notes and cover all that you need to.</p><p></p><p>That is respectful to him and to you in these types of situations and can head off problems before they occur.</p><p></p><p>I am pulling for you all, Lucy! You are trying to learn how to accept what is and how to create a relationship with your son within that reality. That is my hope for my own relationship with my son as time goes by.</p><p></p><p>Be kind to yourself in these next days and weeks. Do nice things for YOU. Relax into what you have done---which is the best you can do. Turn it over to God's care. Keep us posted on YOU. We care.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 622132, member: 17542"] Lucy, what a wonderful plan! You have created the most optimum conditions possible given the amount of "control" (I put that word in quotes advisedly, lol) you have over your son. What more can anybody do? Something I am wondering--- If you need to take him back earlier, will that go well? I mean, will he go willingly? If not, would you have help convincing him from someone so you don't get into a confrontation with him? Yes! That happens with me too. It's good for me when I'm not focusing to hopefully or stridently on HIM. Also, not having constant eye contact gives me a break so I can think more clearly and not react. I hope you can relax into the time between now and then. Lucy, you have carefully thought about what you want (seeing your precious son) and how to go about it as best you can so it works for all. I hope you can talk with him before the visit so you can clearly state how glad you are he is coming and how things need to be. A suggestion---write it down and have it ready so you can pull out your notes and cover all that you need to. That is respectful to him and to you in these types of situations and can head off problems before they occur. I am pulling for you all, Lucy! You are trying to learn how to accept what is and how to create a relationship with your son within that reality. That is my hope for my own relationship with my son as time goes by. Be kind to yourself in these next days and weeks. Do nice things for YOU. Relax into what you have done---which is the best you can do. Turn it over to God's care. Keep us posted on YOU. We care. [/QUOTE]
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