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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 622214" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Lucy, when my son needed to get back here (four hours from where he was) for a court date, and at the time I said I would help him because he was in rehab, I had a lot of stress about how I was going to get him back to rehab after the court date.</p><p></p><p>My best friend lives in the city where he was in rehab, and she and I talked about her coming here and staying for a few days to support me. I thought about asking her to drive him back. I thought about driving him back myself. </p><p></p><p>I do know that I had a great deal of pre-stress about the very idea that I would be in the car with him for four hours. </p><p></p><p>In the end, he was homeless (kicked out of rehab again) when the time came to get him here. I could (maybe should) have handled it differently and said, I'm not going to help you get back here since you're not in rehab now, but I didn't. </p><p></p><p>I bought him a bus ticket with the $100 his grandparents gave him for Christmas (gave to me, ugh!). The ticket was $89 with tax. His uncle (whom he hadn't seen in years) picked him up from the McDonald's where he had been living for about 12 days, and took him to the bus station. (I arranged that, ugh.)</p><p></p><p>I also called the police to meet the bus here, and he went to jail overnight for his court appearance the next day. </p><p></p><p>Did I handle that as I would have liked, looking back? No. The best thing I did was call the police to meet the bus. That way, he wasn't once again homeless here in below-freezing temperatures, and he wasn't knocking on my front door to get in.</p><p></p><p>I am trying to listen to myself when I feel a lot of stress and anxiety about something. Do I need to find another solution? Do I need to at least have a Plan B, in case I can't or don't want to do Plan A. </p><p></p><p>Having multiple plans, and writing things down, are two tools that have really helped me navigate this highly emotional minefield that is my son's life and our relationship right now.</p><p></p><p>Those two things help me stick with what I decide to do. Not always, and I can always change my mind at any time. </p><p></p><p>But it helps. I'm wishing and hoping and praying for the best outcome for this visit for you and your precious son, Lucy!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 622214, member: 17542"] Lucy, when my son needed to get back here (four hours from where he was) for a court date, and at the time I said I would help him because he was in rehab, I had a lot of stress about how I was going to get him back to rehab after the court date. My best friend lives in the city where he was in rehab, and she and I talked about her coming here and staying for a few days to support me. I thought about asking her to drive him back. I thought about driving him back myself. I do know that I had a great deal of pre-stress about the very idea that I would be in the car with him for four hours. In the end, he was homeless (kicked out of rehab again) when the time came to get him here. I could (maybe should) have handled it differently and said, I'm not going to help you get back here since you're not in rehab now, but I didn't. I bought him a bus ticket with the $100 his grandparents gave him for Christmas (gave to me, ugh!). The ticket was $89 with tax. His uncle (whom he hadn't seen in years) picked him up from the McDonald's where he had been living for about 12 days, and took him to the bus station. (I arranged that, ugh.) I also called the police to meet the bus here, and he went to jail overnight for his court appearance the next day. Did I handle that as I would have liked, looking back? No. The best thing I did was call the police to meet the bus. That way, he wasn't once again homeless here in below-freezing temperatures, and he wasn't knocking on my front door to get in. I am trying to listen to myself when I feel a lot of stress and anxiety about something. Do I need to find another solution? Do I need to at least have a Plan B, in case I can't or don't want to do Plan A. Having multiple plans, and writing things down, are two tools that have really helped me navigate this highly emotional minefield that is my son's life and our relationship right now. Those two things help me stick with what I decide to do. Not always, and I can always change my mind at any time. But it helps. I'm wishing and hoping and praying for the best outcome for this visit for you and your precious son, Lucy! [/QUOTE]
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