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Contact with homeless son. Wants to visit and stay for couple of nights.
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<blockquote data-quote="nlj" data-source="post: 622428" data-attributes="member: 17650"><p>Well, I had a text message from my son this weekend to say he'd been taken to hospital by ambulance after collapsing with pain in his back, neck and joints. He was x-rayed and checked over and discharged after they found nothing obvious wrong. I can only assume that it is his lifestyle that has caused this. It sounds a bit like rheumatism which isn't surprising as he's spent the winter in a damp derelict farmhouse with no heat, light or running water and a poor diet. I feel strangely unworried by the situation. It's self-inflicted, his choice, what can I do about it anyway? As the hospital found nothing serious, I even wonder if there may be some psycho-somatic element to this? This is a big departure from normal behaviour for me, as several months ago i would have been in the depths of despair at this news and would have driven straight there to rescue and save him from his squat. But I'm feeling quite balanced now, and quite pragmatic that this is his choice, it is not necessary and not enforced. If he chooses to live like this then it is inevitable that his health will suffer in some way. He is not a child, I don't have any control over his choices. </p><p></p><p>I don't intend making any changes to our plans and hope that he will be feeling well when he visits. My young daughter liked Cedar's idea of putting together a parcel. She said it would be like a 'Red Cross' parcel. We'll include socks and toothpaste as suggested and she also wants to include a chocolate Easter egg. This parcel will avoid any confrontation in the kitchen and D and I will enjoy putting it together, so this is a really positive thing.</p><p></p><p>Echo, that's so true that they shift the sands and change the boundaries as it suits them, but that we are expected to remain constant, reliable, pliable, etc. I think he will notice a change in me and I wonder how he will take that. He may respect me more, and that makes me smile. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>Thanks all. x</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nlj, post: 622428, member: 17650"] Well, I had a text message from my son this weekend to say he'd been taken to hospital by ambulance after collapsing with pain in his back, neck and joints. He was x-rayed and checked over and discharged after they found nothing obvious wrong. I can only assume that it is his lifestyle that has caused this. It sounds a bit like rheumatism which isn't surprising as he's spent the winter in a damp derelict farmhouse with no heat, light or running water and a poor diet. I feel strangely unworried by the situation. It's self-inflicted, his choice, what can I do about it anyway? As the hospital found nothing serious, I even wonder if there may be some psycho-somatic element to this? This is a big departure from normal behaviour for me, as several months ago i would have been in the depths of despair at this news and would have driven straight there to rescue and save him from his squat. But I'm feeling quite balanced now, and quite pragmatic that this is his choice, it is not necessary and not enforced. If he chooses to live like this then it is inevitable that his health will suffer in some way. He is not a child, I don't have any control over his choices. I don't intend making any changes to our plans and hope that he will be feeling well when he visits. My young daughter liked Cedar's idea of putting together a parcel. She said it would be like a 'Red Cross' parcel. We'll include socks and toothpaste as suggested and she also wants to include a chocolate Easter egg. This parcel will avoid any confrontation in the kitchen and D and I will enjoy putting it together, so this is a really positive thing. Echo, that's so true that they shift the sands and change the boundaries as it suits them, but that we are expected to remain constant, reliable, pliable, etc. I think he will notice a change in me and I wonder how he will take that. He may respect me more, and that makes me smile. :-) Thanks all. x [/QUOTE]
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