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<blockquote data-quote="nlj" data-source="post: 623683" data-attributes="member: 17650"><p>Firstly, huge thanks for all your advice and for all your kind words. You have all given me such strength and enabled me to see everything from a healthier perspective.</p><p></p><p></p><p>At the moment I feel physically and mentally drained. I have just arrived home after driving for 4 hours to the forest and back. My son seems well and the visit was good. I am very glad that I was able to spend a few days with him here. He is hairy and scruffy but, under the wild-man façade he is calmer and happier than I have known him to be for many years. We went to the beach and wandered around the village shops and also drove to the old cathedral in the mountains near here. We walked and avoided talking for a lot of the time and I felt peaceful and not anxious. We cooked a lot and he ate everything without ranting about the immoral way that meat is produced or the way the earth is being destroyed by deforestation to plant crops or the food that is flown all around the world so that we can eat anything we like out of season. I knew he was thinking all those things, but he didn’t seem to need to create a scene out of it. We watched a couple of films in the evenings but it was only when we watched the BBC news later on and started talking about some issues that I could feel his emotions heating up and I could sense where things were headed. I stayed calm though and didn’t rise to his bait. I just said “mmm” and “oh is that what you think?” and similar, but didn’t enter into any of his one-sided intense ranting arguments. </p><p></p><p></p><p>There were a few amusing moments particularly when he made some derogatory comment about how people dress to make a social statement and I pointed out that actually his appearance made him stand out more than anyone! He also complained that a load of hippies had turned up on the farm and were making an encampment. I wondered if squatters could complain about people squatting in their squat. </p><p></p><p></p><p>He was grateful for the red cross parcel and I also washed a pile of his rags and tried to mend some of the worst ones, but he wasn’t interested in wearing anything new, although he had a good shower as soon as he got here. He said it felt like I was trying to dress him up as if he was a little boy.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Anyway, we left on good terms and I hope to see him again in the Summer some time, although he has plans to go to France (at Nantes if anyone is interested in looking this up) to join some eco crusade against an airport that is happening in the countryside there. There is already an encampment there and he showed my some footage online which seemed quite violent with French police and eco-warriors living in trees in a stand-off. I’m going to try not to worry about that at the moment.</p><p></p><p></p><p>I hope you are all well.</p><p></p><p>Peace x</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nlj, post: 623683, member: 17650"] Firstly, huge thanks for all your advice and for all your kind words. You have all given me such strength and enabled me to see everything from a healthier perspective. At the moment I feel physically and mentally drained. I have just arrived home after driving for 4 hours to the forest and back. My son seems well and the visit was good. I am very glad that I was able to spend a few days with him here. He is hairy and scruffy but, under the wild-man façade he is calmer and happier than I have known him to be for many years. We went to the beach and wandered around the village shops and also drove to the old cathedral in the mountains near here. We walked and avoided talking for a lot of the time and I felt peaceful and not anxious. We cooked a lot and he ate everything without ranting about the immoral way that meat is produced or the way the earth is being destroyed by deforestation to plant crops or the food that is flown all around the world so that we can eat anything we like out of season. I knew he was thinking all those things, but he didn’t seem to need to create a scene out of it. We watched a couple of films in the evenings but it was only when we watched the BBC news later on and started talking about some issues that I could feel his emotions heating up and I could sense where things were headed. I stayed calm though and didn’t rise to his bait. I just said “mmm” and “oh is that what you think?” and similar, but didn’t enter into any of his one-sided intense ranting arguments. There were a few amusing moments particularly when he made some derogatory comment about how people dress to make a social statement and I pointed out that actually his appearance made him stand out more than anyone! He also complained that a load of hippies had turned up on the farm and were making an encampment. I wondered if squatters could complain about people squatting in their squat. He was grateful for the red cross parcel and I also washed a pile of his rags and tried to mend some of the worst ones, but he wasn’t interested in wearing anything new, although he had a good shower as soon as he got here. He said it felt like I was trying to dress him up as if he was a little boy. Anyway, we left on good terms and I hope to see him again in the Summer some time, although he has plans to go to France (at Nantes if anyone is interested in looking this up) to join some eco crusade against an airport that is happening in the countryside there. There is already an encampment there and he showed my some footage online which seemed quite violent with French police and eco-warriors living in trees in a stand-off. I’m going to try not to worry about that at the moment. I hope you are all well. Peace x [/QUOTE]
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