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<blockquote data-quote="KC but no sunshine band" data-source="post: 86582" data-attributes="member: 4187"><p>Good day everyone,</p><p> :princess: </p><p></p><p>Now that I have had a few days to breathe and we've done the memorial service for my brother in law, things don't seem near as desperate. It took me a couple of days to process why I had my meltdown on Thursday. Our family is a mixed family; husband has three kids - 2 easy child and 1 difficult child. I have 2 kids - 1 easy child and 1 difficult child. husband is bi-polar and gets easily frustrated by my difficult child. Consequently, my difficult child likes to push husband'S buttons to get a rise out of him. I have been playing referee in this for over six years. Thursday I hit my breaking point; I couldn't be torn in two anymore. It wasn't until Saturday that I really pinpointed what had transpired. We were getting ready to leave for the brother in law'S memorial service yesterday when husband yelled at difficult child for not wearing appropriate pants. I had to go intervene once again. Once I got there, I explained that I had told difficult child to wear the pants. husband had found this out already and apologized to difficult child for yelling. I pleaded with husband to be a little easier on difficult child. We went to the memorial service. It was at the memorial service when the timing was right and all of a sudden I blurted out what was going on with me. I told husband that I couldn't take the incessant fighting between him and difficult child; it is tearing me in two. difficult child was on his absolute best behaviour the whole time so this made things go smoothly with my speech. :thumb: </p><p>Once the memorial service was finished, we had to take mother in law home. Usually she rides in the front of the car as she is a little crippled. husband surprised me as he brought the car up to the door and put mother in law in the back seat. Since I told him my feelings, he has been the kind, caring, and attentive husband that I married three plus years ago. Both he and difficult child are making an effort to get along. :dance:</p><p></p><p>Today we went out as a family and it went very well. When we got home, difficult child and I laid down for a nap. husband was supposed to nap as well but when I got up, he had cleaned the kitchen, tidied up the living room, did laundry and ordered dinner. Life is good. </p><p></p><p> :future: As for what the future holds, who knows. I'm just going to take it as it comes. In the meantime, my world is a much calmer place and now tomorrow when we go see the P-doctor, I no longer need to ask to put my darling difficult child in a group home. Instead, I will ask for more supports to be put into place. (ie. parenting courses, respite care, etc..) </p><p></p><p> :its_all_good: God bless everyone and I hope you all have a great week!</p><p></p><p>Kathy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="KC but no sunshine band, post: 86582, member: 4187"] Good day everyone, [img]:princess:[/img] Now that I have had a few days to breathe and we've done the memorial service for my brother in law, things don't seem near as desperate. It took me a couple of days to process why I had my meltdown on Thursday. Our family is a mixed family; husband has three kids - 2 easy child and 1 difficult child. I have 2 kids - 1 easy child and 1 difficult child. husband is bi-polar and gets easily frustrated by my difficult child. Consequently, my difficult child likes to push husband'S buttons to get a rise out of him. I have been playing referee in this for over six years. Thursday I hit my breaking point; I couldn't be torn in two anymore. It wasn't until Saturday that I really pinpointed what had transpired. We were getting ready to leave for the brother in law'S memorial service yesterday when husband yelled at difficult child for not wearing appropriate pants. I had to go intervene once again. Once I got there, I explained that I had told difficult child to wear the pants. husband had found this out already and apologized to difficult child for yelling. I pleaded with husband to be a little easier on difficult child. We went to the memorial service. It was at the memorial service when the timing was right and all of a sudden I blurted out what was going on with me. I told husband that I couldn't take the incessant fighting between him and difficult child; it is tearing me in two. difficult child was on his absolute best behaviour the whole time so this made things go smoothly with my speech. [img]:thumb:[/img] Once the memorial service was finished, we had to take mother in law home. Usually she rides in the front of the car as she is a little crippled. husband surprised me as he brought the car up to the door and put mother in law in the back seat. Since I told him my feelings, he has been the kind, caring, and attentive husband that I married three plus years ago. Both he and difficult child are making an effort to get along. [img]:dance:[/img] Today we went out as a family and it went very well. When we got home, difficult child and I laid down for a nap. husband was supposed to nap as well but when I got up, he had cleaned the kitchen, tidied up the living room, did laundry and ordered dinner. Life is good. [img]:future:[/img] As for what the future holds, who knows. I'm just going to take it as it comes. In the meantime, my world is a much calmer place and now tomorrow when we go see the P-doctor, I no longer need to ask to put my darling difficult child in a group home. Instead, I will ask for more supports to be put into place. (ie. parenting courses, respite care, etc..) [img]:its_all_good:[/img] God bless everyone and I hope you all have a great week! Kathy [/QUOTE]
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