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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 429409" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>((((hugs))))</p><p></p><p>I had strongly suspected my eldest bro having been molested for many years. (he in turn did the same) During those years I had a theory on who had done the molesting.....no proof whatsoever, except it was pretty much the only possible person as that is where bro spent a majority of his time. My theory involved bro's best friend's dad. I didn't say a word to anyone. I had no proof. My bro just spent nearly every waking moment there from age 9 until 17 when he left home. He looked up to his best friend's dad as a father figure (according to mom) and he hated our step dad for taking our bio dad's place. A vulnerable time frame for him at 9 yrs old. The best friends dad was an upstanding citizen, pillar of the community, deacon in his church the whole deal. But I know from personal experience that monsters don't look and act like monsters.</p><p></p><p>It was many years later my Mom called me in a state of horror. I let her go on and on for hours about how horrible it was for bro's best friend's sister to accuse her Dad of molesting her and her daughters and her granddaughter who was only 3 at the time. Family was backing the Dad up, going on and on about what a wonderful person he was ect. Mom was both shocked and appalled when I told her it didn't surprise me a bit, I think she dropped the phone when I told her I believed he'd done the same to bro. She didn't take it well. She'd let bro hang out over there thinking that since he hated and fought with step dad all the time it would at least give him a "good" father figure to look up to.</p><p></p><p>As the case went on, and Mom gave me constant updates whether I wanted them or not, My heart went out to the woman who initially pressed charges, and to her grown daughters who stood with her. The public, nor their family was kind to them. But they refused to back down. Slowly over time as the trial date edged closer......(and this went on for many many months) other family members went to police and told their stories one by one. Eventually there was an endless parade of children, grandchildren, great grandchildren...........and friends of all of them.......plus children who had lived in the neighborhoods of both the father and bro's best friend (as an adult). Seems bro's best friend had also carried on the abuse as well. </p><p></p><p>Then I paid attention. So often these people get a slap on the hand, including my own eldest bro who only spent 2 yrs behind bars. Justice was served in this case. So many many victims.....and I'm sure many more who never came forward. Bro's childhood best friend and his father will die in prison. I can't say I'm sad about that.</p><p></p><p>I think the woman's family were afraid to step forward until they were certain there would be a trial. While I don't think it was fair leaving them hanging until that moment, in some ways having been a victim, I can understand it.</p><p></p><p>But if it hadn't been for the one daughter, and her daughters, being brave enough to press charges and stick to it.............who knows how many endless amounts of children would have continued to be damaged by these two men. </p><p></p><p>I have been where you are. And sometimes doing the right thing can be the hardest thing on earth to do.</p><p></p><p>I'm praying that other victims will take strength in your courage and come forward and help remove this monster from society.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 429409, member: 84"] ((((hugs)))) I had strongly suspected my eldest bro having been molested for many years. (he in turn did the same) During those years I had a theory on who had done the molesting.....no proof whatsoever, except it was pretty much the only possible person as that is where bro spent a majority of his time. My theory involved bro's best friend's dad. I didn't say a word to anyone. I had no proof. My bro just spent nearly every waking moment there from age 9 until 17 when he left home. He looked up to his best friend's dad as a father figure (according to mom) and he hated our step dad for taking our bio dad's place. A vulnerable time frame for him at 9 yrs old. The best friends dad was an upstanding citizen, pillar of the community, deacon in his church the whole deal. But I know from personal experience that monsters don't look and act like monsters. It was many years later my Mom called me in a state of horror. I let her go on and on for hours about how horrible it was for bro's best friend's sister to accuse her Dad of molesting her and her daughters and her granddaughter who was only 3 at the time. Family was backing the Dad up, going on and on about what a wonderful person he was ect. Mom was both shocked and appalled when I told her it didn't surprise me a bit, I think she dropped the phone when I told her I believed he'd done the same to bro. She didn't take it well. She'd let bro hang out over there thinking that since he hated and fought with step dad all the time it would at least give him a "good" father figure to look up to. As the case went on, and Mom gave me constant updates whether I wanted them or not, My heart went out to the woman who initially pressed charges, and to her grown daughters who stood with her. The public, nor their family was kind to them. But they refused to back down. Slowly over time as the trial date edged closer......(and this went on for many many months) other family members went to police and told their stories one by one. Eventually there was an endless parade of children, grandchildren, great grandchildren...........and friends of all of them.......plus children who had lived in the neighborhoods of both the father and bro's best friend (as an adult). Seems bro's best friend had also carried on the abuse as well. Then I paid attention. So often these people get a slap on the hand, including my own eldest bro who only spent 2 yrs behind bars. Justice was served in this case. So many many victims.....and I'm sure many more who never came forward. Bro's childhood best friend and his father will die in prison. I can't say I'm sad about that. I think the woman's family were afraid to step forward until they were certain there would be a trial. While I don't think it was fair leaving them hanging until that moment, in some ways having been a victim, I can understand it. But if it hadn't been for the one daughter, and her daughters, being brave enough to press charges and stick to it.............who knows how many endless amounts of children would have continued to be damaged by these two men. I have been where you are. And sometimes doing the right thing can be the hardest thing on earth to do. I'm praying that other victims will take strength in your courage and come forward and help remove this monster from society. [/QUOTE]
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