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<blockquote data-quote="SeekingStrength" data-source="post: 621151" data-attributes="member: 17635"><p>Pasajes, I am so sorry that happened in your support group. Gee. It just doesn't sound very supportive. I don't get it. Maybe because this online support group is always so supportive. I understand how somebody might feel that way, but not how she thought it was okay to make somebody in a support group feel bad.</p><p></p><p>The time my difficult child was in the most trouble, he got a terrible PD. In fact, the guy was DISBARRED a few years later. Then, he got a very good PD, in my opinion. I flew 1500 miles to visit difficult child in jail (he was about 24yo at the time), his PD and somebody else. Can't remember that guy's title, but he was the first to let me know difficult child would be incarcerated a looooong time. I couldn't believe it! I am much wiser now. </p><p></p><p>Anyway, my mom (who has always felt difficult child was mistreated by the family and has stepped in many times) paid something like $4000 to hire an attorney--somebody that difficult child said was good. I daresay difficult child got the same sentence he would have received with the good PD, and maybe even the bad PD.</p><p></p><p>If gfg32 is incarcerated again (he is in same town as last time), I might put money in his account, but that is all. I would not fly to visit him, send books from Amazon or put money in that inmate phone ripoff thing so that difficult child could call and make me feel bad.</p><p></p><p>When I first found this forum, there were times I would wonder, <em>What if they are wrong? What if this is the worst thing I could do for difficult child?</em></p><p>But, I knew #1. these folks have been on the same path and #2. What husband and I had been doing for 17 years was most definitely NOT working.</p><p></p><p>I know our kids are years apart and I am rambling, but you should not be made to feel bad by anybody. (That was my main point).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SeekingStrength, post: 621151, member: 17635"] Pasajes, I am so sorry that happened in your support group. Gee. It just doesn't sound very supportive. I don't get it. Maybe because this online support group is always so supportive. I understand how somebody might feel that way, but not how she thought it was okay to make somebody in a support group feel bad. The time my difficult child was in the most trouble, he got a terrible PD. In fact, the guy was DISBARRED a few years later. Then, he got a very good PD, in my opinion. I flew 1500 miles to visit difficult child in jail (he was about 24yo at the time), his PD and somebody else. Can't remember that guy's title, but he was the first to let me know difficult child would be incarcerated a looooong time. I couldn't believe it! I am much wiser now. Anyway, my mom (who has always felt difficult child was mistreated by the family and has stepped in many times) paid something like $4000 to hire an attorney--somebody that difficult child said was good. I daresay difficult child got the same sentence he would have received with the good PD, and maybe even the bad PD. If gfg32 is incarcerated again (he is in same town as last time), I might put money in his account, but that is all. I would not fly to visit him, send books from Amazon or put money in that inmate phone ripoff thing so that difficult child could call and make me feel bad. When I first found this forum, there were times I would wonder, [I]What if they are wrong? What if this is the worst thing I could do for difficult child?[/I] But, I knew #1. these folks have been on the same path and #2. What husband and I had been doing for 17 years was most definitely NOT working. I know our kids are years apart and I am rambling, but you should not be made to feel bad by anybody. (That was my main point). [/QUOTE]
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