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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 260988" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Susan, you've been doing so much better. I know you're trying hard. But Star is right, you most certainly don't still want to be in the middle of this mess when difficult child is 55 and you're in your 70's.</p><p> </p><p>My mother in law, bless her heart, spent her life "helping" husband. Her intentions were pure and good. If he was short of cash, she'd give him money. If he had no where to live, she'd let him come home. If he couldn't pay bills, she'd pay them. Even once he was married with children.</p><p> </p><p>My husband still can't handle responsibility at 61 yrs old. Although he is being forced to by me. I put a stop to mother in law's help about 10 yrs ago, even though it made life much harder on myself and my kids to do so. Why? Because it wasn't fair to mother in law. And by "helping" she was only making it worse, despite her good intentions. husband would have svcked her dry if I'd have let him continue, never learning anything because he didn't have to.</p><p> </p><p>And I force husband to handle the bills. Heaven help him if one doesn't get paid cuz his ears will burn for a week. And I make certain HE is the one to do without when a bill doesn't get paid. Our power/water/gas/phone getting shut off now is a rare event.....instead of an every other month occurance. </p><p> </p><p>Trust me. They don't learn if you hold their hand.</p><p> </p><p>You can do it Susan. We know it's hard. But you can do it.</p><p> </p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 260988, member: 84"] Susan, you've been doing so much better. I know you're trying hard. But Star is right, you most certainly don't still want to be in the middle of this mess when difficult child is 55 and you're in your 70's. My mother in law, bless her heart, spent her life "helping" husband. Her intentions were pure and good. If he was short of cash, she'd give him money. If he had no where to live, she'd let him come home. If he couldn't pay bills, she'd pay them. Even once he was married with children. My husband still can't handle responsibility at 61 yrs old. Although he is being forced to by me. I put a stop to mother in law's help about 10 yrs ago, even though it made life much harder on myself and my kids to do so. Why? Because it wasn't fair to mother in law. And by "helping" she was only making it worse, despite her good intentions. husband would have svcked her dry if I'd have let him continue, never learning anything because he didn't have to. And I force husband to handle the bills. Heaven help him if one doesn't get paid cuz his ears will burn for a week. And I make certain HE is the one to do without when a bill doesn't get paid. Our power/water/gas/phone getting shut off now is a rare event.....instead of an every other month occurance. Trust me. They don't learn if you hold their hand. You can do it Susan. We know it's hard. But you can do it. Hugs [/QUOTE]
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