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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 230446" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>If she's beginning to wise up, she might not even call, especially if her lawyer tells her he's spoken to you and you were there. A wiser kid would figure, "Mum already knows, I can save my $3 for a more necessary call."</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry you went through such a long wait. Bureaucracy is very frustrating. I'm sure someone could have told you how long it would be, but I think they get jaded in such a job. Plus, ther could always be that one day when everything runs smoothly, someone turns up early, and it all gets rushed forward while you're still out getting your coffee.</p><p></p><p>I hate the security hassles you have to go through, to get into court. It's been a long time, I went to court to support a local teacher, back when easy child was 8 years old. The teacher had been charged with assaulting a student because he spanked the boy at school (when spanking by teachers was still permitted although it was a grey area) and also he spanked his prospective stepson after the mother had told him, within hearing of the principal, to discipline her unruly child at school if necessary rather than wait until they got home. And she only brought the charges when he (the teacher) broke off his relationship with her. Mind you, he was one sick puppy who had a habit of getting romatically involved with the mothers of his students, and then breaking up with them just as things seemed to be going well. But I was horrified at the security gauntlet we had to go through, to get into court. This was Family Court, not the main criminal court (although in this case it was acting as Criminal Court). But there had been a spate of bombings and attacks directed at Family Court judges and so I had to surrender my embroidery scissors but for some reason not my crochet hook. I sat and did my crochet while we waited. And waited. Although the court staff were courteous to us, they never told us anything useful (such as how much longer we'd have to wait). Oone of them DID show us, when we asked, how to read the list to see when someone was schedule to appear.</p><p></p><p>I know this seems off topic - all I'm trying to say, is find a hobby to keep you occupied while you wait, but make sure it's something that won't be grestly inconvenieced by such security measures. Maybe knitting with rocket needles (check what implements are permitted) or my current 'vice', Sudoku. But if you're donig anything which involves writing, make sure your pencil doesn't breach security - some pacer pencils could make rather lethal weapons. Then again, some of my readers reckon what I write can be pretty lethal too.</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry you had to go through this ordeal. It's going to happen like this, one way or another, again and again. It's horrible to be treated as if you have absolutely zero significance; or worse, as if you are the bad parent at fauly, and tey look at you like you're something unpleasant they have to scrape off their shoe.</p><p></p><p>Keep your head up high, be polite and pleasant to everybody even if they're being condescending. I actually use places like this as good practice, I like to challenge myself to make the grumpiest person smile in spite of themselves. I find I feel less intimidated by such people, if I try this.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 230446, member: 1991"] If she's beginning to wise up, she might not even call, especially if her lawyer tells her he's spoken to you and you were there. A wiser kid would figure, "Mum already knows, I can save my $3 for a more necessary call." I'm sorry you went through such a long wait. Bureaucracy is very frustrating. I'm sure someone could have told you how long it would be, but I think they get jaded in such a job. Plus, ther could always be that one day when everything runs smoothly, someone turns up early, and it all gets rushed forward while you're still out getting your coffee. I hate the security hassles you have to go through, to get into court. It's been a long time, I went to court to support a local teacher, back when easy child was 8 years old. The teacher had been charged with assaulting a student because he spanked the boy at school (when spanking by teachers was still permitted although it was a grey area) and also he spanked his prospective stepson after the mother had told him, within hearing of the principal, to discipline her unruly child at school if necessary rather than wait until they got home. And she only brought the charges when he (the teacher) broke off his relationship with her. Mind you, he was one sick puppy who had a habit of getting romatically involved with the mothers of his students, and then breaking up with them just as things seemed to be going well. But I was horrified at the security gauntlet we had to go through, to get into court. This was Family Court, not the main criminal court (although in this case it was acting as Criminal Court). But there had been a spate of bombings and attacks directed at Family Court judges and so I had to surrender my embroidery scissors but for some reason not my crochet hook. I sat and did my crochet while we waited. And waited. Although the court staff were courteous to us, they never told us anything useful (such as how much longer we'd have to wait). Oone of them DID show us, when we asked, how to read the list to see when someone was schedule to appear. I know this seems off topic - all I'm trying to say, is find a hobby to keep you occupied while you wait, but make sure it's something that won't be grestly inconvenieced by such security measures. Maybe knitting with rocket needles (check what implements are permitted) or my current 'vice', Sudoku. But if you're donig anything which involves writing, make sure your pencil doesn't breach security - some pacer pencils could make rather lethal weapons. Then again, some of my readers reckon what I write can be pretty lethal too. I'm sorry you had to go through this ordeal. It's going to happen like this, one way or another, again and again. It's horrible to be treated as if you have absolutely zero significance; or worse, as if you are the bad parent at fauly, and tey look at you like you're something unpleasant they have to scrape off their shoe. Keep your head up high, be polite and pleasant to everybody even if they're being condescending. I actually use places like this as good practice, I like to challenge myself to make the grumpiest person smile in spite of themselves. I find I feel less intimidated by such people, if I try this. Marg [/QUOTE]
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