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<blockquote data-quote="TeDo" data-source="post: 406968"><p>He is old enough to do that with. I would give it a shot. I would even go as far as no more paying for the electricity for his video games, computer, stereo, etc. No more paying for HIS food, even at home. Tell him he is on his own from here on out. No more doing HIS laundry at your house because you are not going to pay for the soap, water, and electricity to do it. He doesn't get ANYTHING (even at home) unless he pays for it himself. Sounds like he needs what I call the 2 by 4 lesson, meaning he's the type that needs to be hit with an imaginary 2x4 before he gets it. I have a brother in law like that. Never learns except the hard way.</p><p> </p><p>As for another placement, I would look into getting him evaluated and maybe diagnosed before I would go that route. on the other hand, if that's what you need to do to stay sane and safe, you should maybe look into it. </p><p> </p><p>If my kid had told me "fine, I'll just hitchhike", I would have laid down the law and said "No you won't. You are a minor and are my responsibility. I said you're not going so you're not going!" Could he be acting this way around you because you let him have his way too much? I would have forfeited the plane ticket to FL if my difficult child had LOST the privilege of being able to go.</p><p> </p><p>As for the school issue, let the school officials handle it. That would also be a natural consequences. Do what you can to get him to go but if he refuses, let the school know that he is refusing and give them permission to do whatever they need to do.</p><p> </p><p>I am sorry you are in this place but I agree there is still hope. I would also recommend you and husband get into counseling to get help in dealing with his behavior. Your sig says he's currently undiagnosed. Have you tried to have him diagnosis-ed? If he is fine everywhere except at home, my guess is you need to change how you deal with him at home. Good luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TeDo, post: 406968"] He is old enough to do that with. I would give it a shot. I would even go as far as no more paying for the electricity for his video games, computer, stereo, etc. No more paying for HIS food, even at home. Tell him he is on his own from here on out. No more doing HIS laundry at your house because you are not going to pay for the soap, water, and electricity to do it. He doesn't get ANYTHING (even at home) unless he pays for it himself. Sounds like he needs what I call the 2 by 4 lesson, meaning he's the type that needs to be hit with an imaginary 2x4 before he gets it. I have a brother in law like that. Never learns except the hard way. As for another placement, I would look into getting him evaluated and maybe diagnosed before I would go that route. on the other hand, if that's what you need to do to stay sane and safe, you should maybe look into it. If my kid had told me "fine, I'll just hitchhike", I would have laid down the law and said "No you won't. You are a minor and are my responsibility. I said you're not going so you're not going!" Could he be acting this way around you because you let him have his way too much? I would have forfeited the plane ticket to FL if my difficult child had LOST the privilege of being able to go. As for the school issue, let the school officials handle it. That would also be a natural consequences. Do what you can to get him to go but if he refuses, let the school know that he is refusing and give them permission to do whatever they need to do. I am sorry you are in this place but I agree there is still hope. I would also recommend you and husband get into counseling to get help in dealing with his behavior. Your sig says he's currently undiagnosed. Have you tried to have him diagnosis-ed? If he is fine everywhere except at home, my guess is you need to change how you deal with him at home. Good luck. [/QUOTE]
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