Hi SeaGenie,
Well it's good that you kicked him out. He's 23 and should be taking care of himself.
As for the inheritance, it's his to do with as he pleases. Even if you contacted the uncle I doubt there is much the uncle could do to withhold the rest unless there was something in the will. Yes, it's a real shame that he's blowing through this money and some day he will look back and realize or not that he made a huge mistake, but it's his mistake to make.
There is really nothing more that you can do for him.
I think cleaning out his bedroom is a good thing. If it were me, I would turn that room into something else, a nice guest room, an exercise room, a craft room, anything but his room.
I'm so sorry for the pain you are going through. Lean into it, feel it and move on from it. Don't let this pain define you. You have survived so much in your life already, now is your time, do the very best things for you.
I know you're trying not to worry and I know how hard that is. It takes time and the amount of worry grows less. I will be honest, it never completely goes away but it does become less, more manageable. It takes effort to not let it consume us. That is why it is so important to get out and live your life for yourself.
You are moving in the right direction.
Thanks for the update and sharing. I'm glad you are here with us.
