You know the truth and that is all that matters. Perhaps you might try thinking of it differently and even telling him if he brings it up, you didn't "kick him out" you "liberated yourself"
If he asks what that means, tell him that you made a choice to stop enabling him.
I felt the same way with my son. This is where grieving helped me. I grieved for the son I used to have. I will always cherish my memories of when he was sweet and caring.
You did what you had to do. Remember, you "liberated yourself" You did not raise your son in a bubble, you taught him right from wrong, you gave him a firm foundation. He not you made the choice to go off the rails. You did not tell him anything that was not true. Sometimes the truth hurts.
Yes, he's trying to make you feel guilty. My son has used the same line many times to different people, "my mom gave up on me". I and you did not give up on them, we gave up enabling them, big difference.
Our Difficult Child give a whole new meaning to the word ungrateful. My husband and I bought a house for our son to live in. All he had to do was get a job. We did this when he was released from prison. We told him all we wanted him to was get a job and we would help him to get his life back on track. Well I wouldn't be here on this site if it had all worked out the way we had hoped.
I have had the "apologies" but they were just words, never followed up by any action. I have learned to be very cautious when it comes to an apology as it can be a manipulation to get you to do something for them.
You have an awesome boss!! Enjoy, Enjoy, Enjoy!!
You deserve some goodness and some happiness. Nothing like some time on the beach to rejuvenate yourself.
