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Mom? What's a difficult child?
So last night we were outside letting the girls get some fresh air, they were riding there bikes on the driveway. The neighbor boy comes over on his bike, then gets his little motorized tractor... so they ride for about 30 minutes, while we are talking to his Mom. They all take off to his house, a few minutes late girls come back and difficult child 1 is very animated and says "Can I play at Davies house?" It was 6:30 and they are still recovering and difficult child is not allowed on playdates by herself yet. (I have tried to explain this to her before about safety, her medications, etc) She starts getting elevated and saying no... we tell her she can walk him home and come right back, his Mom sends her home. Trying to help.
Anyway this little scene sends difficult child into a day and half "thing", she has been cycling anyway pretty bad lately, it has been up early mania, quickly down, up again... so today she is up early on a tirade about the tooth fairy where is her present? Then yelling about where is her prize from me? Meanwhile I am still groggy and trying to decipher it all, figure it out, try to explain her weekly "Good Job" card comes at the end of the week sometimes... starts yelling at me sobbing, runs into her room slams door... sinks into depression, lays with husband later, amps back up starts back on the why can't I have play dates? Why don't I have any friends? She is sobbing hysterically, It takes me forever to get her back down... this goes on again... I take her to the park later and she ends up following a girl much younger than her, keeps saying "hi" to everyone, is like a stalker... wants to be someones friend so bad. I have to keep redirecting her and she is getting mad and elevated and angry, yelling at me "I just want a friend" "why doesn't anyone like me?" Then she goes on about how she "Needs a boyfriend and she needs more than a friend, a boyfriend!" "I am old enough" Ugh.
This has happened before, the whole time I am trying to help her and her sister, who is angry also... it just rips my heart out. I want her to have friends, she is so out going and happy, she love everyone, but she is overbearing. and a bit immature.
She is so socially unaware at times.
I am not able to let her go by herself yet, due to her age, instability, medication instability and we don't know anyone near by who "gets it".
And she has been on the Buspar for about 12 days now and we are seeing nothing!!!
I hate this... how do you explain this to your kids and deal with this...
I have tried everything to find a social group for her...
Anyway this little scene sends difficult child into a day and half "thing", she has been cycling anyway pretty bad lately, it has been up early mania, quickly down, up again... so today she is up early on a tirade about the tooth fairy where is her present? Then yelling about where is her prize from me? Meanwhile I am still groggy and trying to decipher it all, figure it out, try to explain her weekly "Good Job" card comes at the end of the week sometimes... starts yelling at me sobbing, runs into her room slams door... sinks into depression, lays with husband later, amps back up starts back on the why can't I have play dates? Why don't I have any friends? She is sobbing hysterically, It takes me forever to get her back down... this goes on again... I take her to the park later and she ends up following a girl much younger than her, keeps saying "hi" to everyone, is like a stalker... wants to be someones friend so bad. I have to keep redirecting her and she is getting mad and elevated and angry, yelling at me "I just want a friend" "why doesn't anyone like me?" Then she goes on about how she "Needs a boyfriend and she needs more than a friend, a boyfriend!" "I am old enough" Ugh.
This has happened before, the whole time I am trying to help her and her sister, who is angry also... it just rips my heart out. I want her to have friends, she is so out going and happy, she love everyone, but she is overbearing. and a bit immature.
She is so socially unaware at times.
I am not able to let her go by herself yet, due to her age, instability, medication instability and we don't know anyone near by who "gets it".
And she has been on the Buspar for about 12 days now and we are seeing nothing!!!
I hate this... how do you explain this to your kids and deal with this...
I have tried everything to find a social group for her...