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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 388723" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Ok, they've left and I can talk.</p><p></p><p>Soon as they got here I gave katie the number to the dayton shelter I got from catholic charities and told her to call them. She was stunned, no problem about room, lady will hold the spot until their rent runs out on thurs. </p><p></p><p>The hitch: They can only take 7 days worth of clothes for each person and nothing else. Guessing room and theft issues. It's one huge room.......I know, I've stayed there..........one for women/children and one for men. No separate rooms like the last shelter in Mo. And each week they're re-evaled by a social worker to see if they can stay. Shelter will try to find them hud housing.</p><p></p><p>Kids were devastated of course. Both Alex and Kayla are afraid they won't see us again. They sat plastered to my lap until supper was ready. I'm surprised I have circulation left. Kayla was fighting back tears.........as was Katie.</p><p></p><p>But you know, Fran's favorite saying kept playing over and over in my head. If you always do what you've always done; you always get what you've always got. Nothing else could be more perfect.</p><p></p><p>They've had 3 wks here to get into a shelter, get welfare set up, and find work. At least 2 of those goals should've been met. Heck, I'd have settled for one......welfare has been approved but she hasn't got her medicaid cards yet except for kayla and Alex. But in all honesty......I wouldn't have been so disappointed had they really gone out and looked for work, not just 3 token places.</p><p></p><p>Katie got two slaps across the face tonight. Turning Point.......the program that would teach M to read and get his GED told him they'd be calling him this week since he has at least kept up calling them. Well that's a no go now. And the principal at the school called, seemed there was a group of Mom's organized at the school providing xmas for the homeless kids and he wanted to make certain Kayla and Alex were involved. Now of course with them in dayton the point is mute.</p><p></p><p>Guess when you move too slow opportunities slip out of your fingers.</p><p></p><p>If Katie thought the St Louis shelter was bad.........wow, she's in for an eye opener. Ok, it's not the worst place in the world, but it's no picnic either by far. It's in the old YWCA building and unless they've done some work........ok unless they've totally redone the place........she's gonna freeze if it's a cold winter. No privacy at all. It's going to take every ounce of strength to keep 3 kids under control in a vast room full of strangers............and she'd better cuz even the slightest hint of neglect gets CPS involved. They'd better be actively looking for work............and I'm not sure but I don't think they're allowed to even stay in the building during the day.</p><p></p><p>One hellova life lesson. Maybe it will open her eyes to the obvious. Maybe it will be the straw to motivate her to truly change regardless of how hard it is or headaches ect. If not.........then she'd better get used to it cuz that's how they'll be living out the rest of their lives.</p><p></p><p>There is a God and evidently he'd like me to stay sane afterall.<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/peaceful.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":peaceful:" title="peaceful :peaceful:" data-shortname=":peaceful:" /></p><p></p><p>It's not fair to the kids to be yanked from yet another school and placed into yet another shelter. But that isn't my fault. At some point their parents have to be forced to face the consequences of their own actions or inaction. And I just can't bring myself to jeopardize what all I've waited a lifetime for and worked hard for to "maybe" help them out of the disaster they've created themselves.</p><p></p><p>Once again they're on their own to sink or swim. I'll be funding the trip to dayton with xmas cash I have tucked away. There will be no more trips, we can't afford it, we've got to catch back up on the bills before the thick of winter hits. Nichole is super low on empathy, so she's not going to be toting them around........just got off the phone with her. And they don't know where exactly she lives so they can't go look her up.</p><p></p><p>We'll be here on holidays..........and Nichole did say she'd bring them down for those......how I dunno as there are so many of them.......guess 2 cars. That will have to do until they can get their act together. </p><p></p><p>It svcks but I didn't do it. And I can't fix this one, nor can I rescue. </p><p></p><p>And in just 3 days I'll have my life back. I'll finally be able to really study for state boards and take the exam. No more waiting in dread for M to show up out of the blue...........man, I'm almost giddy, but I refuse to get excited until there is no doubt the shelter will take them on thursday.</p><p></p><p>Ohhh yeah..........10 yrs has sooooo made me not the same person.<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/smug.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":smug:" title="smug :smug:" data-shortname=":smug:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 388723, member: 84"] Ok, they've left and I can talk. Soon as they got here I gave katie the number to the dayton shelter I got from catholic charities and told her to call them. She was stunned, no problem about room, lady will hold the spot until their rent runs out on thurs. The hitch: They can only take 7 days worth of clothes for each person and nothing else. Guessing room and theft issues. It's one huge room.......I know, I've stayed there..........one for women/children and one for men. No separate rooms like the last shelter in Mo. And each week they're re-evaled by a social worker to see if they can stay. Shelter will try to find them hud housing. Kids were devastated of course. Both Alex and Kayla are afraid they won't see us again. They sat plastered to my lap until supper was ready. I'm surprised I have circulation left. Kayla was fighting back tears.........as was Katie. But you know, Fran's favorite saying kept playing over and over in my head. If you always do what you've always done; you always get what you've always got. Nothing else could be more perfect. They've had 3 wks here to get into a shelter, get welfare set up, and find work. At least 2 of those goals should've been met. Heck, I'd have settled for one......welfare has been approved but she hasn't got her medicaid cards yet except for kayla and Alex. But in all honesty......I wouldn't have been so disappointed had they really gone out and looked for work, not just 3 token places. Katie got two slaps across the face tonight. Turning Point.......the program that would teach M to read and get his GED told him they'd be calling him this week since he has at least kept up calling them. Well that's a no go now. And the principal at the school called, seemed there was a group of Mom's organized at the school providing xmas for the homeless kids and he wanted to make certain Kayla and Alex were involved. Now of course with them in dayton the point is mute. Guess when you move too slow opportunities slip out of your fingers. If Katie thought the St Louis shelter was bad.........wow, she's in for an eye opener. Ok, it's not the worst place in the world, but it's no picnic either by far. It's in the old YWCA building and unless they've done some work........ok unless they've totally redone the place........she's gonna freeze if it's a cold winter. No privacy at all. It's going to take every ounce of strength to keep 3 kids under control in a vast room full of strangers............and she'd better cuz even the slightest hint of neglect gets CPS involved. They'd better be actively looking for work............and I'm not sure but I don't think they're allowed to even stay in the building during the day. One hellova life lesson. Maybe it will open her eyes to the obvious. Maybe it will be the straw to motivate her to truly change regardless of how hard it is or headaches ect. If not.........then she'd better get used to it cuz that's how they'll be living out the rest of their lives. There is a God and evidently he'd like me to stay sane afterall.:peaceful: It's not fair to the kids to be yanked from yet another school and placed into yet another shelter. But that isn't my fault. At some point their parents have to be forced to face the consequences of their own actions or inaction. And I just can't bring myself to jeopardize what all I've waited a lifetime for and worked hard for to "maybe" help them out of the disaster they've created themselves. Once again they're on their own to sink or swim. I'll be funding the trip to dayton with xmas cash I have tucked away. There will be no more trips, we can't afford it, we've got to catch back up on the bills before the thick of winter hits. Nichole is super low on empathy, so she's not going to be toting them around........just got off the phone with her. And they don't know where exactly she lives so they can't go look her up. We'll be here on holidays..........and Nichole did say she'd bring them down for those......how I dunno as there are so many of them.......guess 2 cars. That will have to do until they can get their act together. It svcks but I didn't do it. And I can't fix this one, nor can I rescue. And in just 3 days I'll have my life back. I'll finally be able to really study for state boards and take the exam. No more waiting in dread for M to show up out of the blue...........man, I'm almost giddy, but I refuse to get excited until there is no doubt the shelter will take them on thursday. Ohhh yeah..........10 yrs has sooooo made me not the same person.:smart: [/QUOTE]
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