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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 388862" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Janet and Donna that is a good idea about the kinship foster care, as at the moment, financially that is the only way we'd be able to take the kids in.........and honestly, it would be the best thing for them due to services they can get that way. And yeah, also because it would force both katie and her husband to step up and do what they should already be doing, plus keep the kids in family. Which in my opinion these kids need really really bad, that family connection and support system. They've been yanked here and there most of their lives everytime they turn around. (kayla tells all) They're already in need of counseling.........kayla is shouldering too much responsibility for a 10 yr old and all 3 of them have never known any sort of stability.</p><p></p><p>Would be a ton of work to take them on............which I've thought long and hard about because well the situation has forced me to. IF CPS got involved and we had to take them husband would not be happy........phht like I care, he goes along with me or it's the curb anyway and he knows it. I might be able to handle Evan without his parents around, especially without M influencing his behavior. But if Nana takes over parenting the boy is in for a rude awakening. Nana is the most stubborn parent on the planet. I don't give in to tantrums, his baby whine ect, and he will sit in time out if I have to hold him there. Pretty much the same for Alex........although he is nowhere near as bad as Evan. Oddly Kayla may pose as the greatest challenge. She's spent most of her young life forced to Mother her brothers literally. I'd have to work on her letting go of that and help her to be just a little girl again, heck maybe for the first time.</p><p></p><p>You all are going to think I'm just a tad crazy...................... But I tend to have precognitive dreams. I bought this house we live in now because for months before we even saw the house I dreamed of it.........that I was fighting Katie for custody........and that the kids came here to live. I've had similar dreams the whole time we've lived here.</p><p></p><p>That doesn't mean necessarily that it is predestined. And I'm doing what I can to prevent those events from having to take place. I have never wanted custody of the grands, and I don't now. I want Katie to step up and be the parent she is supposed to be.</p><p></p><p>But it does mean that 1. it won't be a shock to me if I suddenly get a call from CPS......been expecting it for years. and 2. I can prepare myself emotionally, mentally, and physically for the worst while doing my best to try to see that the best case scenario happens.....that katie steps up and does what she is supposed to do.</p><p></p><p>Even the family has a plan in place for it CPS does become involved. Travis will go to easy child's to free up a bedroom. Once again the downstairs will be rearranged so that the livingroom becomes another bedroom making the house back into a 3 bedroom instead of 2. It worked for 5 yrs until Nichole left home, it will work again.<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/tongue.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":tongue:" title="tongue :tongue:" data-shortname=":tongue:" /></p><p></p><p>I hope it doesn't have to come to that. But I'm prepared if it does. In the meantime I'll be studying and getting things done that were put on hold because Katie showed up.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 388862, member: 84"] Janet and Donna that is a good idea about the kinship foster care, as at the moment, financially that is the only way we'd be able to take the kids in.........and honestly, it would be the best thing for them due to services they can get that way. And yeah, also because it would force both katie and her husband to step up and do what they should already be doing, plus keep the kids in family. Which in my opinion these kids need really really bad, that family connection and support system. They've been yanked here and there most of their lives everytime they turn around. (kayla tells all) They're already in need of counseling.........kayla is shouldering too much responsibility for a 10 yr old and all 3 of them have never known any sort of stability. Would be a ton of work to take them on............which I've thought long and hard about because well the situation has forced me to. IF CPS got involved and we had to take them husband would not be happy........phht like I care, he goes along with me or it's the curb anyway and he knows it. I might be able to handle Evan without his parents around, especially without M influencing his behavior. But if Nana takes over parenting the boy is in for a rude awakening. Nana is the most stubborn parent on the planet. I don't give in to tantrums, his baby whine ect, and he will sit in time out if I have to hold him there. Pretty much the same for Alex........although he is nowhere near as bad as Evan. Oddly Kayla may pose as the greatest challenge. She's spent most of her young life forced to Mother her brothers literally. I'd have to work on her letting go of that and help her to be just a little girl again, heck maybe for the first time. You all are going to think I'm just a tad crazy...................... But I tend to have precognitive dreams. I bought this house we live in now because for months before we even saw the house I dreamed of it.........that I was fighting Katie for custody........and that the kids came here to live. I've had similar dreams the whole time we've lived here. That doesn't mean necessarily that it is predestined. And I'm doing what I can to prevent those events from having to take place. I have never wanted custody of the grands, and I don't now. I want Katie to step up and be the parent she is supposed to be. But it does mean that 1. it won't be a shock to me if I suddenly get a call from CPS......been expecting it for years. and 2. I can prepare myself emotionally, mentally, and physically for the worst while doing my best to try to see that the best case scenario happens.....that katie steps up and does what she is supposed to do. Even the family has a plan in place for it CPS does become involved. Travis will go to easy child's to free up a bedroom. Once again the downstairs will be rearranged so that the livingroom becomes another bedroom making the house back into a 3 bedroom instead of 2. It worked for 5 yrs until Nichole left home, it will work again.:raspberry-tounge: I hope it doesn't have to come to that. But I'm prepared if it does. In the meantime I'll be studying and getting things done that were put on hold because Katie showed up. [/QUOTE]
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