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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 351250" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>Susie makes a very good point about how many kids will grow into wanting to be paid for everything they do and wanting more and more. Every kid is different. I didn't have that problem with my difficult child. It may be because once that list was finalized no changes were made - we never added more points to an item or made anything cheaper. We didn't add anything new to the list that he can earn points for. We had the "you have to list" of basic chores and then added the "You can if you want to earn more chips" list. The list can have a one week probation time to make any adjustments. Once he got bored with the list as it was then it was the end of the list - no arguing over it - if you don't want to do it that way, then you don't get to earn rewards. Then it is on to someway else to get the chores done. Your son has to be involved and interested to make this work. If he is still resisting what you are hoping the chart system does, then it will not work for him. If he starts trying to manipulate the chart, then it is of no use. I would say, "Looks like this is not working anymore. You can cash in the chips you have earned but you are no longer earning any because you choose not to use this as it has been set up."</p><p> </p><p>To figure out the cost of items, add up the total that he can earn in one day and go from there. How much of that total do you feel is needed to earn 1/2 hour easy child time? If the total is 10,000, you will not want to have easy child time of 500 since you KNOW that is what he will do, purchase 20 times. I would make easy child time atleast 75% of the total. </p><p> </p><p>I think another thing we did to help avoid the "gimme mores" was to make the rewards more about things that don't cost money such as family time activity. A trip to the zoo, a board game night, a movie night at home (he can purchase popcorn and pop seperately), an extra 1/2 hour of play before bedtime, an afternoon bike ride with mom and dad, ect.. I don't recall "wish list" of things such as games for the Wii, ect. Those he is on his own to purchase with the $$ earned for yard work, ect.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 351250, member: 5096"] Susie makes a very good point about how many kids will grow into wanting to be paid for everything they do and wanting more and more. Every kid is different. I didn't have that problem with my difficult child. It may be because once that list was finalized no changes were made - we never added more points to an item or made anything cheaper. We didn't add anything new to the list that he can earn points for. We had the "you have to list" of basic chores and then added the "You can if you want to earn more chips" list. The list can have a one week probation time to make any adjustments. Once he got bored with the list as it was then it was the end of the list - no arguing over it - if you don't want to do it that way, then you don't get to earn rewards. Then it is on to someway else to get the chores done. Your son has to be involved and interested to make this work. If he is still resisting what you are hoping the chart system does, then it will not work for him. If he starts trying to manipulate the chart, then it is of no use. I would say, "Looks like this is not working anymore. You can cash in the chips you have earned but you are no longer earning any because you choose not to use this as it has been set up." To figure out the cost of items, add up the total that he can earn in one day and go from there. How much of that total do you feel is needed to earn 1/2 hour easy child time? If the total is 10,000, you will not want to have easy child time of 500 since you KNOW that is what he will do, purchase 20 times. I would make easy child time atleast 75% of the total. I think another thing we did to help avoid the "gimme mores" was to make the rewards more about things that don't cost money such as family time activity. A trip to the zoo, a board game night, a movie night at home (he can purchase popcorn and pop seperately), an extra 1/2 hour of play before bedtime, an afternoon bike ride with mom and dad, ect.. I don't recall "wish list" of things such as games for the Wii, ect. Those he is on his own to purchase with the $$ earned for yard work, ect. [/QUOTE]
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