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<blockquote data-quote="TheWalrus" data-source="post: 684018" data-attributes="member: 19905"><p>You are not nuts, but you need to shift your focus away from the negative. You are at a point that you cannot see the forest for the trees. You are letting her actions seep into your every waking minute, so that you no longer see anything positive. It is easy to sink into despair, anger, depression, and negativity. Hell, I felt entitled to it after what my child put me through. For months I lived there and truly felt robbed of my joy, my life and myself. </p><p></p><p>But we have to change just like our children do. The ownership isn't squarely on them. We have to change our beliefs of what we expected from them, let go of our wants for them, quit expecting them to behave or respond in preconceived ways, and accept the situation before us without turning bitter. You cannot change her. You can love her, support (but not enable) her, set boundaries with her, hurt and ache for her, mourn for what she has done. But the only person you can change is yourself and that is where you need to focus - how are YOU going to get through this and maintain and reassemble a family dynamic?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TheWalrus, post: 684018, member: 19905"] You are not nuts, but you need to shift your focus away from the negative. You are at a point that you cannot see the forest for the trees. You are letting her actions seep into your every waking minute, so that you no longer see anything positive. It is easy to sink into despair, anger, depression, and negativity. Hell, I felt entitled to it after what my child put me through. For months I lived there and truly felt robbed of my joy, my life and myself. But we have to change just like our children do. The ownership isn't squarely on them. We have to change our beliefs of what we expected from them, let go of our wants for them, quit expecting them to behave or respond in preconceived ways, and accept the situation before us without turning bitter. You cannot change her. You can love her, support (but not enable) her, set boundaries with her, hurt and ache for her, mourn for what she has done. But the only person you can change is yourself and that is where you need to focus - how are YOU going to get through this and maintain and reassemble a family dynamic? [/QUOTE]
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