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Daughter in hospital for 2nd time since February
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 361984" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Welcome back. It sure sounds as if the last year has been even rougher than the years before it. Those days sure don't sound like a picnic!</p><p></p><p>From what you have said here, you really have done everything a parent can do. You love her, have taken care of her, tried as much as any mom and dad can to teach her how to live a good life, contribute to society and work to be as emotionally healthy as it is possible to be. You have given her all the tools that you could figure out might help her. </p><p></p><p>It isn't your fault that she refuses to pick them up and use them.</p><p></p><p>Have you heard of MST, multi-systemic therapy? It is supposed to be the only type of therapy to help conduct disorder. It isn't a "fix" but it can help. I am not terribly familiar with it, but others here will have more info.</p><p></p><p>I totally understand why you are reluctant to consider residential treatment. It is really hard to admit that we cannot provide what our children need within the four walls of our home and the emotional guidance and love that we provide. By sending her to a residential treatment center you are NOT disrupting the adoption, kicking her out so you can have "fun" without her, throwing her away, or any of the other ugly thoughts that make up that heavy ball in the pit of your stomach and the ache in your heart.</p><p></p><p>Residential will be able to provide the boundaries to keep her safe from herself and from situations she will seek out that will hurt her. It will provide structure and intense therapy that simply cannot be reached inside a home setting. You are NOT kicking her out of the family. You will simply be a family of different addresses. </p><p></p><p>You are also giving her a safe place to be able to address all of the emotional problems. In many ways it is emotional college for our kids. </p><p></p><p>I strongly suggest using an educational consultant to help you find the RIGHT program for her. The closest facility may not be the best fit for her problems. The program needs to be a good fit with her needs. Others here can send you private messages for the names of consultants they have used with good results. They will also give you ideas for what to watch out for.</p><p></p><p>I am sorry things are this rough with her. Try to recharge your batteries while she is in the hospital. </p><p></p><p>(((((Hugs)))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 361984, member: 1233"] Welcome back. It sure sounds as if the last year has been even rougher than the years before it. Those days sure don't sound like a picnic! From what you have said here, you really have done everything a parent can do. You love her, have taken care of her, tried as much as any mom and dad can to teach her how to live a good life, contribute to society and work to be as emotionally healthy as it is possible to be. You have given her all the tools that you could figure out might help her. It isn't your fault that she refuses to pick them up and use them. Have you heard of MST, multi-systemic therapy? It is supposed to be the only type of therapy to help conduct disorder. It isn't a "fix" but it can help. I am not terribly familiar with it, but others here will have more info. I totally understand why you are reluctant to consider residential treatment. It is really hard to admit that we cannot provide what our children need within the four walls of our home and the emotional guidance and love that we provide. By sending her to a residential treatment center you are NOT disrupting the adoption, kicking her out so you can have "fun" without her, throwing her away, or any of the other ugly thoughts that make up that heavy ball in the pit of your stomach and the ache in your heart. Residential will be able to provide the boundaries to keep her safe from herself and from situations she will seek out that will hurt her. It will provide structure and intense therapy that simply cannot be reached inside a home setting. You are NOT kicking her out of the family. You will simply be a family of different addresses. You are also giving her a safe place to be able to address all of the emotional problems. In many ways it is emotional college for our kids. I strongly suggest using an educational consultant to help you find the RIGHT program for her. The closest facility may not be the best fit for her problems. The program needs to be a good fit with her needs. Others here can send you private messages for the names of consultants they have used with good results. They will also give you ideas for what to watch out for. I am sorry things are this rough with her. Try to recharge your batteries while she is in the hospital. (((((Hugs))))) [/QUOTE]
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