A month or so ago, my 19 year old granddaughter and her mother, my daughter Terry, who is borderline bipolar, came to my house. Shelly is rooming at college with another granddaughter, her cousin Jenni. Shelly started spilling information on Jenni, that she was partying, drinking, as well as "vaping" pot before class, and had a friend who was experimenting with heroin. She did ask me not to tell my other daughter, Callie. Terry has always been jealous of Callie, and has passed that along to her daughter, Shelly. There has always been friction between the two girls also. After a couple days of keeping this upsetting info to myself, I came to feel that Callie has the right to know what was going on. I made a conscious decision to tell her what I had been told, knowing Terry and Shelly would be angry. Hindsight being 20/20, I should have spoken to Jenni first, but I didn't think of that then. I've told all of them if the tables had been turned, I'd have done the same for Terry, had it been her daughter. Neither Callie nor Jenni are angry at me or anyone else. Terry and Shelly have turned it all around on me, I "favor" Callie and Jenni, and Terri has always "had to live in Callie's shadow". I made Shelly the "bad guy" when all she was doing was venting. Terri also wrote an email telling me she won't try to live up to my expectations anymore, and she won't allow me to do the same thing to her children. I'm not sure what I've done to her or her children! My grandson was here the other day for a few hours, and says he just stay's out of his mother's and Shelly's drama. I wish I had been able to do that also, but I was honestly afraid for my granddaughter Jenni. Does anyone have any insight for me? Was I wrong? We have family events coming up and I'd like to be able to attend without being on eggshells. Thanks for listening (reading) my "venting"!