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Daughter reached out- I responded-Having hard time
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<blockquote data-quote="WiseChoices" data-source="post: 751305" data-attributes="member: 24254"><p>From experience, addicts have a terrible relationship with themselves .there is this nagging inner critical voice that puts us down all the time. And it's easier to project that pain onto others than to fix it inside oneself.</p><p></p><p>Kay's comments signal that she feels less than, feels she doesn't fit in, can't compete, can't be successful and happy .And I believe that no matter in what family she was raised, those feelings would have been identical. </p><p></p><p>Her assertions that you "kidnapped" her are just blame games designed not to take responsibility for herself and her actions .The guilt is designed to keep you locked into her control. These "stories" we tell ourselves that are far from the truth feed the characteristics of an alcoholic/addict: self-delusion, self-centeredness, self pity, and a hundred forms of fear.</p><p></p><p>You tried to give a little orphaned girl a better life . You tried so hard . You did not give up on her for so long. You loved her and you still do.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WiseChoices, post: 751305, member: 24254"] From experience, addicts have a terrible relationship with themselves .there is this nagging inner critical voice that puts us down all the time. And it's easier to project that pain onto others than to fix it inside oneself. Kay's comments signal that she feels less than, feels she doesn't fit in, can't compete, can't be successful and happy .And I believe that no matter in what family she was raised, those feelings would have been identical. Her assertions that you "kidnapped" her are just blame games designed not to take responsibility for herself and her actions .The guilt is designed to keep you locked into her control. These "stories" we tell ourselves that are far from the truth feed the characteristics of an alcoholic/addict: self-delusion, self-centeredness, self pity, and a hundred forms of fear. You tried to give a little orphaned girl a better life . You tried so hard . You did not give up on her for so long. You loved her and you still do. [/QUOTE]
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