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Daughter woke up in hotel room... no clue how she got there.
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<blockquote data-quote="Bean" data-source="post: 408067" data-attributes="member: 8620"><p>She ended up back at my parent's house the next day. So... their triumph led right back to the same patterns. I think, sometimes, they are almost as "sick" as she is. Enabling/Co-dependance is NO JOKE.</p><p></p><p>My mother hung up the phone on me when I explained to her that she was once again enabling my daughter. She said I was being "abusive" to her. It broke my heart. My reminding her about enabling and detachment is <em>abuse</em>, but my daughters lies, accusations and thievery still get her in the door of their house.</p><p></p><p>Detachment sucks. My husband and I went to their house, got her out of there. My parents didn't disagree or protest. Especially after my husband explained to them that she had called, under the influence the previous night (the night after she woke up in the hotel room), told him another tale, minimizing her hotel room escapade, and reminded my mom that the destination she was to take my daughter was one of her using friends.</p><p></p><p>I dropped my daughter off at the bus stop, gave her my pass, and left her there. In the car she went into a tirade about how nobody cares about her, how she had been raped multiple times, enjoys her weed and booze, and how she just sleeps with anyone because who cares now? All this in front of her teenaged brother. And when she got out of the car, she said, "GOOD LUCK TO YOU, 'CAUSE I'M GOING TO KILL MYSELF TONIGHT, SLIT MY WRISTS AND BE GONE."</p><p></p><p>Again, in front of her brother.</p><p></p><p>I broke down when she left. Seeing her walk away with her purse hooked over her arm, into the night... It's happened so many times that it is like PTSD for me, triggered too much. My safety shell surrounding the rest of the family was permeated with her sexual and violent remarks. What brother wants to hear his sister talk that way? What parent does?</p><p></p><p>She continually forces us into her sexual world.</p><p></p><p>I haven't talked to my parents since. I think that saddens me almost as much. My mom never called to see how I was, or anything. Things feel jumbled and surreal. </p><p></p><p>Yeah. It sucks. It really does.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Bean, post: 408067, member: 8620"] She ended up back at my parent's house the next day. So... their triumph led right back to the same patterns. I think, sometimes, they are almost as "sick" as she is. Enabling/Co-dependance is NO JOKE. My mother hung up the phone on me when I explained to her that she was once again enabling my daughter. She said I was being "abusive" to her. It broke my heart. My reminding her about enabling and detachment is [i]abuse[/i], but my daughters lies, accusations and thievery still get her in the door of their house. Detachment sucks. My husband and I went to their house, got her out of there. My parents didn't disagree or protest. Especially after my husband explained to them that she had called, under the influence the previous night (the night after she woke up in the hotel room), told him another tale, minimizing her hotel room escapade, and reminded my mom that the destination she was to take my daughter was one of her using friends. I dropped my daughter off at the bus stop, gave her my pass, and left her there. In the car she went into a tirade about how nobody cares about her, how she had been raped multiple times, enjoys her weed and booze, and how she just sleeps with anyone because who cares now? All this in front of her teenaged brother. And when she got out of the car, she said, "GOOD LUCK TO YOU, 'CAUSE I'M GOING TO KILL MYSELF TONIGHT, SLIT MY WRISTS AND BE GONE." Again, in front of her brother. I broke down when she left. Seeing her walk away with her purse hooked over her arm, into the night... It's happened so many times that it is like PTSD for me, triggered too much. My safety shell surrounding the rest of the family was permeated with her sexual and violent remarks. What brother wants to hear his sister talk that way? What parent does? She continually forces us into her sexual world. I haven't talked to my parents since. I think that saddens me almost as much. My mom never called to see how I was, or anything. Things feel jumbled and surreal. Yeah. It sucks. It really does. [/QUOTE]
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